Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”
and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”
and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay.
Respect is not deserved but earned on a individual basis for demonstrating good character. It has nothing to do with your sexuality.
https://kottke.org/18/05/the-respect-of-personhood-vs-the-respect-of-authority