I have childhood friends. I have romantic partners. I have adult friendships are based around convenience. My social life is the web of friendships surrounding my childhood friends and my romantic partners plus the current convenience friends.

Writing that out I realize I might not have deep friendships with people I’ve met as an adult because I don’t extend my social circle to include more of their friends. I’m just a dangling friendship in their lives not part of their larger network of friends.

I wonder what that’s about.

I’m very extroverted. I have no trouble making new friends that are interested in a hobby or like to meet up at a certain place. In the 24 years since I graduated high school haven’t met a new friend who just wants to meet up, hang out, and do whatever because life is more fun with friends. Back in my school days I was pretty bad at making new friends but the friends I did make were legit. I still keep in touch with them and we don’t need a plan to have fun.

If anyone has any insights or tips on how to make solid friends as an adult I’d love to hear it.