Scientist, Drummer, Dog Owner person.
The “chat” community on most instances is another good rec, especially on the midsized ones. Like people ask Lemmy how-to or recommendation questions all the time. Neat as I can tell they’re mostly a catch all for conversations, so questions get asked a lot too.
That’s what I was saying when I first came to Lemmy. This is how reddit used to be. Before the digg migration it wasn’t uncommon to see the same posts on the front page for days at a time because they were so active. It also wasn’t uncommon to check it in the morning, and then see mostly the same posts that night. But, like here, usually the comments have developed and you can chat and have friendly banter with people. Reddit at that time I think still had loads more users than Lemmy does now, but the vibe was way more akin to what Lemmy is in its current state.
Idk about everyone else, but I sort by new on Lemmy and “all” WAY more than I ever would on reddit. Even sorting by new or all on reddit it just shuffles around the same 100 posts they want you to see. Here people post about all kinds of stuff!
Your most harm scenario is exactly what they want to do.
Yes. You will never get over your ex if you keep bringing up your ex, talking about her non stop, and asking everyone what she’s up without you. You have anew gf now. Let the old one go. She never really liked you anyway.
Nobody really likes her but it’s a little more complicated for my cousin because she is his aunt by blood through his father. So she’s been around his whole life. I’m only step-related to her though, and she’s only really been involved in my life at holidays when she’d show up sometimes. My cousins mother (my aunt) officiated our wedding, and was completely on board and understanding of not inviting her.
Sure! This happened recently and it’s my favorite story of the past few weeks. My wife and I got married in 2021, and when figuring out the guest list and discussing with my family, we all kind of agreed to not invite my aunt to the wedding. My wife had never met my aunt, and had also never heard good things about her (because there aren’t many to tell her). Fast forward to a couple weeks ago, my wife and I are on the way to my cousins wedding, and my (and his) aunt is going to be there! So on the way to the wedding, my wife asks me “Okay so what’s the deal with your aunt again? She’s just mean or something?” I struggled to come up with a good answer, because is not actually mean so to speak. She’s just a genuinely unpleasant person to be around. She’s the kind of person that walks into a room where everyone is talking and laughing and having a good time, and inside of 2-3 minutes she’s managed to kill all joy and happiness, and the room is now awkwardly quiet and nobody is enjoying themselves. I still, to this day, could not explain exactly what it is about her that makes her unpleasant, she just is. So I essentially fumbled my way through a version of that recap with my wife.
We got to the wedding right as the ceremony was starting. Once the ceremony had finished and my wife and I are saying hello to everyone we know, and catching up with everyone when my aunt walks in (she was very late…it was not a short ceremony by any means) and comes over to where we’re all congregating. I say hello and my wife introduces herself and says that it’s nice to meet her. And I swear on my life, the very first thing my aunt says to her is “Hi I’m BrainisfineIthink’s Aunt. We’ve never met because you didn’t invite me to your wedding.”
Two sentences was all it took for my wife to completely understand what we meant about her being unpleasant. I hope you enjoyed my story.
My man you have got to shake this from your psyche, that’s exactly how the employers that aren’t paying their employees want you to feel. You’re offloading their greed and systematic exploitation of working class people onto yourself under the misplaced guise of personal guilt. There may not a way to immediately fix the problem, but I can guarantee it will never get fixed if we dont change anything.