Me too. I think this isn’t remotely trans-exclusive.

But don’t say it in Czech, that would have pedophilia connotations.

Voyager on my crappy connection sometimes suffers from the “Two Generals’ Problem”

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I’m sorry to be scolding you, you’re a nice person, but what kind of attitude is that?! Is this a competition?

You’re already notorious with your distinct handwriting and daily posts, this is just a bit of what I remember off the top of my head:
your account is @Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone (as displayed by my client) but actually you’re maria from Germany, you like drawing and mr. blåhaj, and you sometimes make crunchy chocolate milk and prefer qwen to SaaS LLMs or media generators.

Yes, Miisha’s level of posting has been excessive and with so much attention I directed at supporting her, I’ve seen fewer of your posts, but it’s the kind of energy influx this community needed. There will be more 196 subscribers and they will come to love your posts, too.

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Models don’t need to be smart, models need to be pretty, and you’ve basically reached status of a Lemmy supermodel already

I’ll get the police called on me again if I start being too honest with people with how much I’m struggling

I don’t want to call the police, Miisha… I wish I could have called someone you know and trust who would text/call/visit you instead.

And the struggles are real, I’m not denying that, you just deserve more people close to you to offer support. I got so much support in the sad times in my life from classmates, for example. Some were assholes but I learned to filter them out.

Named after the Queen

Oh yes, Jak se udělala ptáčkem

That’s a chapter name in the book Říkání o víle Amálce the fairy is from. It means “How she turned herself into a little bird” but now the language evolved so it means “How she used a little bird to do it [reach orgasm]”

Yeah, I think I did the right thing though, Czech police is fine… but still, it was such distress to her that getting reminded of it got her to delete the account.

I used to think the only clear difference between femboys and trans women was pronouns, leading to this blunder of a comment. However, seeing you smile with a sparkle of joy in your eyes in girl mode makes it clear that the key is feeling comfortable as a certain kind of oneself!

Wow… What a difference!

She is with her BF. This is the safest she can be under the current circumstances. It’s been a distressing evening for her and she deleted her account in a depressive episode but she’s going to be fine. She now finds it was justified what I did on 2026-10-10 and does not consider it “doxxing” or “swatting”. To be clear, I’m not happy I had to do it and I’ll ask her for emergency family contacts so I can make someone trustworthy text/call/visit her instead, which I’d prefer. I don’t, don’t want to, and can’t know her address but she can find mine now from what I shared with her when we met on 2026-10-04 and from earlier texts.

Yes, I did what it took to help her and it worked. The police here are mandatory high-school-educated and very good at de-escalation, and in a situation of “her word against mine” (she hadn’t started carrying out the plan; they didn’t want proof from me, that can be easily faked) they couldn’t do anything to her legally. All of the 20+ Czech cops I’ve interacted with in my life were reasonable and didn’t abuse their positions to be mean or angry or go beyond what protocols allow them to do.

I wouldn’t have done it if I could have visited her but my bigoted Mom wouldn’t let me (it’s only a few days later that my therapist told her she’s overly controlling, which made her slightly relax this). I consulted Mom (she’s still quite close to me) and she said it was the right thing to do. My psychiatrist, psychologist and German teacher, who I confided in, all agreed.

Also, of course I wouldn’t if I had contacts to Miisha’s close ones who could call her or visit and offer hugs for example, which the police can’t do.

By the way, neither Miisha nor me considers this “doxxing”. I don’t know her address and couldn’t find it out if I tried. The police found it in their database and kept it secret from me. If I had known her brother’s phone number and used it to make him visit her, without me showing him the posts or him telling me her address of course, would you consider this doxxing?

Ngl, I’ve been to a psych ward for lesser problems, and it was a rather uncomfortable but quite effective way to resolve the pressing issues, but there are several more or less legitimate reasons she doesn’t want to go, or would use her free will to leave. Caring for her BF with a vertebrae fracture, for example…

Anyway, if you want help with a list…

• Blåhaj or other emotional support plushie
• MP3 player (no video playback or games) or pocket radio
  • ideally rechargeable from USB-A without a cable, otherwise it can only be recharged at the nurse office; puny wired headphones are allowed; non-rechargeable models may be problematic due to springs in the battery compartment but those can be cut and replaced with sheet metal alternatives or even something like aluminium foil ball if need be
• Hobby supplies
  • see if you have a hobby you’ve maybe “grown out of” or put on hold that can be done within the institution’s restrictions (low-tech, no ropes, wires, sharp edges or heavy blunt objects). Reading, writing, drawing etc. you mentioned but there can be other options like Rubik’s cube, large jigsaw puzzles, origami, or making elastic band bracelets, all of which were enjoyed at the teens’ clinic I stayed at. There was a piano and a then-recent offline games console available during some hours, too. Under staff supervision, there are more options: pencils can be sharpened, devices with cables charged and paper model outlines cut out, for example.

BTW “crayons” in Europe usually refers to colored pencils, allowed in the low-security department I stayed at. There are other options that don’t get dangerously sharp: wax crayons (eww), color-core-in-thin-plastic-coating (once made by Progresso, not sure about modern alternatives), or Koh-i-noor art set with hexagonal translucent plastic shells and all-plastic advancing mechanism.

She’s only been hateful towards herself, never anyone else. I think she’s in dire need of several IRL friends who shower her with affirming words so that she internalizes them, and shield her from potential hate from outside.

Look at the post she made that day, and she was even more desperate in DMs to me. This was clearly not a joke. Not with her history of depressive lows…

The rare few people (if any) who want a “clean feed” can block her and likely just did and moved on

No, I don’t have her address or means to find it. (Even if I go to her neighborhood, I have no idea what name to look for on doorbells: likely her BF’s, which I don’t know.) She once slipped up and revealed her name (I then gave her mine to make her feel less insecure, even though unlike hers, it’s basically linked to my address, which she can find with not too much effort). By learning she was at home, I could tell the police her name and neighborhood (which she voluntarily shared, much like I had told her which little village I live in), and they used their database to find her, knock on the door and ask if she was fine. I did not present any evidence so they had no reason to do anything more than a wellness check. It may feel weird but our police is very much unlike US cops. Look at other comments, I think it did make her uncomfortable (mainly the disappointment that I’m not actually coming, revealing the trick the police told me to use) but it was justified what I did, given that − as many now agree − the alternative was genuine, high suicide risk. (See the post she made that day: she was even more desperate in DMs to me.) This was a real emergency, and I did the bare minimum…

Don’t forget that Miisha didn’t find me creepy at all when we met, which is not foolproof but still a kind of validation that I’m not a lunatic who would harm her…

I wish I could be a better friend but we’ve both socialized so little in our formative years (plus I’m neurodivergent and she’s socially anxious) that we’re fumbling through basics of what a relationship means… I’ve been putting women on a pedestal, for example. Is the “magical girl” analogy I use for trans women part of this? Maybe…

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