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Cake day: March 28th, 2026

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  • Once I realized no amount of being patient and kind was going to make me “good enough” to get what I needed my life changed. It’s called a healing fantasy, it’s part of codependency. The fantasy is if you’re just X enough you will get Y but you’re already enough and getting Y isn’t up to you so if you’re not getting it it’s time to consider finding someone who will give you what you need just as you are










  • I agree but I can also accept that I’m not necessarily capable of understanding a reason why. Something not making sense to me personally doesn’t inherently mean it doesn’t make sense objectively. Maybe I’m lacking context or perspective or I’m ignorant to some important factor. I’m not the arbiter of what makes sense or not and my ego isn’t so big that I think I get to be the one who decides what makes sense and what doesn’t. If a person can explain to me why it’s important to them and it can withstand some poking or prodding that’s good enough for me. Sometimes it’s an understanding problem not an explaining problem. I accept the rules of physics are real but I don’t actually understand them in any depth, it’s the same thing. Humility is important too.