I’m not here to proselytize about what we decide to block or not. I’m explaining what the person above is requesting - not a block, but a conscious decision about what shows up on the join-lemmy list.

I don’t think the people raising this as a concern are trying to solve the problem of bigots on the internet; they are just asking for you to change the advertising you provide to remove the bigots from a place of visibility.

And if the racist is here to cause problems rather than commiserate with fellow racists, they now know exactly which community to avoid, thus restoring moderation problems everywhere. I don’t think anyone is asking you to moderate every instance to ensure they are sticking to your TOS or your viewpoints, but it’s a very minor ask to not showcase off the racists and transphobes and bigots on the ‘join this platform’ page.

Assuming good faith needs to go all directions and we’re asking for a little bit of empathy to vent some frustrations when we see them. Not everything we say is with an admin hat on. This is explicitly in the chat community, and it’s specifically titled ‘informal’. We don’t desire to be stuffy and impersonal all the time because then you have no insight into who we are as people or the issues we go through.

I’d ask for you to remember that we’re humans too - we just put a bunch of resources into a very messy upgrade. We’ve been asking for plenty of other fixes, busy running a website, collecting moderators, setting up services for our users and to manage the site, ensuring that emails send because the app doesn’t notify approval/denials, and in general scaling up for the unprecedented growth. We also had to defederate and caught a lot of flak for it, have had to deal with a lot of unsavory users, and in general have had very few people sympathize with our position.

I think it’s absolutely fair to be upset about changes and to vent that frustration. I also think it’s fair to point out it’s not constructive, but please see it from our perspective- it’s another headache we don’t know how to deal with right now, and it’s incredibly frustrating. It’s upsetting to see parts of the platform regressing, many of our concerns glossed over, and to face pushback from many users not even from our instance.

ignoring all the reasons i hate these changes from a design standpoint, from an accessibility standpoint, this is objectively a worse build in almost every way

While I understand what you are getting at, it is literally self-defined as ‘the paradox of tolerance’ by Karl Popper.

While I’m sure you’re already aware of this, I wanted to take a second to point out some framing you used when you said the following, and a common misconception that people who are not familiar with disability communities or regularly interact with disabled folks often make

I will go out of my way to help them

To anyone out here reading this who isn’t aware, it’s really important to check in with people whether they want help, before offering it. Offering help when it’s not solicited is called ‘patronizing help’, and the difference between how abled and disabled people view this is rather stark. In one study on this, a hypothetical is posed, summarized below as follows:

Mary is a blind woman who uses a white cane to navigate her commute to work. One day, she finds a construction project obstructing her usual path to the bus stop.

Stopping at a street corner, Mary asks a passerby to confirm that the bus stop is one block away. One pedestrian tells her it’s too dangerous for her to be walking on her own, takes her by the arm, and insists on accompanying her to the destination.

Another pedestrian says it’s too dangerous for her to be walking on her own and tells her to go home.

Which pedestrian was more helpful?

There’s a pretty stark difference between how helpful sighted and blind individuals found the two different responses. Just take a look at this chart

So to anyone out there who offers help, please ask whether someone wants help and then follow it up by asking how you can be helpful!

The electoral college was never intended to protect proportional representation.

Article 1 of the constitution very clearly lays out how electors are supposed to be chosen based on the census. To say that the house is not supposed to represent proportional representation while the senate represents non-proportional representation as a counterbalance is ignoring the long history of debate and the many laws passed to attempt to bring representation in the house in proportion with the population.

The system is broken. We do not know the ‘original intent’ and anyone trying to argue for constitutional originalism is either completely ignorant of how literally everything changes with time or trying to enforce their conservative ideals through a guise of legitimacy.

But this isn’t really the right place to have this discussion (we’re on a thread about defederating from meta) so I’m gonna withdraw now and not reply to any more responses about this.

We’ve heard from others that you have to re-add the entire list in .18.0 when making changes

I have a copy of our existing list already

I partied too hard this last weekend because so many pride parties. I knew artists at 3 gigs and ended up running host/mgr duty for 2 (luckily one had host assigned because it was a bigger venue). I think I ended up at like 7 different parties plus the main parade, I kinda lost count lol. I’m not sick, but I can tell I’m probably gonna be soon. 11/10 worth it, fun fun weekend

While I appreciate the analogy, the electoral college is a seriously broken system which hasn’t protected proportional representation in a long, long time.

You are on kbin, your experience will not be affected by this.

Because it’s tiresome to have the same conversation that you could have answered yourself by listening to literally any credible medical source, or paying attention to places with allow trans athletes and the requirements and protections they offer.

But since I’m feeling generous about doing the educational burden of opening up google and searching for a relevant scientific paper for you, here you go, a metastudy and in-depth review of all the medical and scientific literature on this subject including an executive summary for those which are not scientifically inclined.

We are explicitly anti-free speech. In the context of this document on what we stand for, making a statement that “free speech is good” without addressing any of the issues we bring up isn’t operating in good faith towards us, so you should not expect us to treat you similarly.

The literal next sentence in the article is

The case raised significant free speech concerns in the context of a law meant to forbid individuals from encouraging illegal immigration.

Why did you make this reply? What are you trying to raise?

I’ve found myself surrounded by a lot of spiritual people lately and I’ve used it as an excuse to try and get in touch with that side of myself. It’s been a very interesting experience. There’s a lot of it I still don’t understand but a lot of it is just nice vibes? Like I don’t ascribe any meaning to the moon or when I’m born or male and female sexual energies or being actually connected to the souls of anyone else but sometimes it’s nice to recognize when things are just unexplainable by conventional means and to use a common language to recognize it. To speak in soft or uncertain terms as a way to acknowledge something you can’t quite put your finger on, only to have it create a wonderful connecting conversation with another human is honestly kind of nice. And it makes approaching certain subjects a little bit more accessible because it’s not rigorous and scientific but more human centered and amorphous.

EDM, generally genre agnostic. I like and find myself drawn towards melodic elements in music and I enjoy it in different parts of music. Melodies can be more traditional and led by instruments like piano, guitar, etc. or they can be less traditional and come through in bass or electronic elements or through melodic break beats on the drums.

Yes, I am poly and that’s the label I use. My nesting partner is the partner that I live with. I use this term instead of anchor or primary because they are neither of these to me - the other partner (metamour) that I referenced is more akin to her primary or anchor (she doesn’t practice hierarchical polyamory but I feel like primary may in ways be more appropriate here because the two have codependency issues they’re working on).

Halfway thru another philosophy post but a busy weekend pulled me away from it. Been thinking I might want to chill on it for a little though, with things slowing down and settling a bit nicer.

A person who is lovely and magical and moved away last year is coming down to visit, so I’ll be hosting and hopefully cuddling in just a few hours - I’m looking forward to spending what little time of theirs I’ll get when they’re around.

This last weekend I got out and danced twice, spent time with partners including one I haven’t seen in almost a month, finally got connected with the right person to discuss everything that went wrong with my 2 surgeries and care coordination, went to a show my nesting partner and her partner played, and some other stuff I probably forgot.

This week I’ll be moderating a panel speech, and then professionally speaking myself. This weekend is pride in SF, so it’s jam packed with shows and parties. I’m guessing I’ll probably be sick next week because I’ll be spending a lot of time partying and being around a lot of people in crowded spaces dancing and having fun.