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  • Disclaimer: I’m a straight cis man, but I have/have had quite a few lesbian friends over time who have explained this joke to me. Take my explanation with the appropriate grain of salt

    “the dating pool is tiny to nonexistant” is a common complaint I’ve heard from lesbians I know, probably related to the fact that I’ve mostly lived in rural areas. Given the low availability of partners, its more common to jump into relationships quickly and really commit to them. I’ve also heard a lot of “I really want somebody to live with me so I don’t just choke on something and die”. Probably less common nowadays, but I’m from a generation when it was harder to be gay publicly --> harder for lesbians to find roommates. Living with other women often meant being stigmatized by straight women that don’t understand lesbians are people and not just sex crazed harlots, and honestly that but worse because of a higher threat of violence with straight men. I’ve heard that moving in with a romantic partner as a lesbian is a move that lets you have a roommate with less objectification related to your gender/orientation. Again, idk how much of that is true today, but that is my understanding of the origins of the joke


  • Gustephan@lemmy.worldto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneRule :3
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    15 days ago

    You ever start replying to disagree with a comment and then realize the things you’ve normalized in your romantic past are a bit fucked up? That’s where I’m at right now

    I’ve had sex plenty of times I didn’t really want to in the past. It goes like

    She’s horny and wants to fuck. I am not

    If I say no it’s a self esteem meltdown

    If I say yes it’s a bit of a workout that ends in cuddling, which I always want

    It’s just always felt better for my life to be an on demand dick machine than somebody who can say no











  • I feel like it’s one of those things where you don’t need to understand it, you just need to respect how other people want to be addressed. For reference, I’m a cis man. It’s really easy to take for granted how gender affirming it is for me every time somebody refers to me with my preferred pronouns, he/him, because I’ve just never had the experience of somebody disrespecting that. I never had to justify my pronouns or fight for the basic respect of people using my preferred pronouns. The idea that anybody should be required to justify their pronouns or fight for that same respect that a lot of us take for granted is horseshit.