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  • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•🤣😳🥵English
    9·
    10 days ago

    (SA warning. Evil person warning.)

    Never heard of him.

    I wanted to post a paste from Wikipedia on him, but it’s kinda too specific.

    He’s a… dead guy, now, that while he was alive was just sexually assaulting…everybody? Jfc

    Wikipedia: "In June 2014, investigations into Savile’s activities at 28 NHS hospitals concluded that he had sexually assaulted staff and patients aged between 5 and 75 over several decades.[17] As a result of the scandal, some of the honours that Savile was awarded during his career were posthumously revoked and his television appearances are no longer shown. "

    After reading more on this, it seems like British culture REALLY likes/liked respectability politics and outright protected this guy until he died.

    Still reading… holy fuck.

    Okay, I finished the section on abuse. For anybody that hasn’t and isn’t going to read the wiki entry…god, where do I start…

    He was a guy born just before ww2, and i think was a dj at bbc for a long time and seen as a philanthropist and worked with hospitals and schools and children until his death. While he was alive, there were a few people that tried to make charges of SA against him, but all were thrown out. After he died in 2011, for the next few years, everything was unearthed about him and police investigations and everybody talked. Everybody knew he was a rapist, a pedo, a necro, and an actual psychopath.

    Jesus Christ I just woke up and checked my phone and read this… I need to go take a shower. I feel unclean.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jimmy_Savile

  • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•RuleEnglish
    9·
    16 days ago

    Anytime I’d ever been in a bathroom that read “gentlemen” it has always been the filthiest, most uncomfortable, piss smelling, rotten mortar, musky, dank, humid bathroom with lead everything, no privacy, and no space. Like a truck stop in a library’s hidden service basement where all the touchy old men leak on a pile of moldy rags in the corner, never wash their hands, and nothing ever gets cleaned. It doesn’t seem natural to be able to stain tile. Literally, seeing that sign gives me the cringeshiversyuck and I’m glad I never have to use one of those again.

  • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•queer ruleEnglish
    2·
    25 days ago

    Can one have a love/hate relationship with knowledge?

    Like, I hate that I have to know all these things, but I love who I am in knowing things-in-general and these things you’ve said, as I know they make the world a better place for us all.

    As I approach 40 and the world changes more and more underneath our feet and before our very eyes, I find myself burdened with knowledge. Knowledge that hurts to have. Knowledge that I’m different, knowledge of how the world works, knowledge of human behavior, and the knowledge of my and all of our limitations. Knowledge that hurts to have.

  • SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•queer ruleEnglish
    6·
    25 days ago

    Yeah it reeks of being told in the 2010s “check your privilege”. While it’s not entirely wrong, it’s not entirely right, either, and is incredibly hostile. Everybody’s right.

    I saw a video on TT the other day of a guy parodying Randy Newman with a made up song “hurt people hurt people”. It was surprisingly good, both funny and good, but surprisingly deep and true and wise and all that.

    As I get older, I think I’m starting to decipher who to listen to, and I think it largely comes down to malice. Like, if the concept of tone policing were to be taken seriously, it would need to meet those with different views and experiences where they’re at.

    I, like you, grew up very closeted. While not exactly hostile to queer people, my guilt of unintentionally hurting people stays with me as a scar, as wisdom. I don’t think much in this world is totally concrete, but let me tell you and anybody who reads this: regardless of what you think logic implies or how logic dictates, emotions are real and are often separate and stand very much on their own (not always, but often). Coming at somebody who is simply ignorant who hurts you with malice isn’t okay. But also, as I get older, willful ignorance is starting to become an unforgivable sin. Maybe even one of the only few real ones.

    With that knowledge of judgement, then, you and I and anybody else, who may have grown up our privileges and lifestyles very much do have a duty to at least intellectually investigate if somebody says we are hurting them. To do otherwise is… quite exceptional, if realistically and unfortunately quite the opposite when it comes to most people.

    That knowledge of morality and responsibility of ethics ethics is a code, though. Codes don’t always need to be followed, as willful negligence can sometimes be strategically good, like “putting your mask on, first”. But, be wary of slipping into willful ignorance, as that is a very dangerous line to court.