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Cake day: March 28th, 2024

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  • The Dinka of South Sudan, likely the tallest people in the world, average just over 180 cm, so I wouldn’t call a 180 cm woman average, no.

    Morticia Addams from the Addams Family comics fits the requirements of the post’s hypothetical goth girl save for being estimated as about 5’11/180 cm, much taller than the listed 5’3/160 cm. The comics and Carolyn Jones’s portrayal (dating myself harder than C-14 here) are also where a very young SoleInvictus first realized they have a thing for pale women in elegant dark clothing with eccentric personalities, hence her being my gateway goth girl.







  • Age is the big factor. It does two things:

    1. Eggs gradually lose water, which introduces more air into the air cell and between the membrane and the shell, making it all a bit looser as you peel.
    2. The pH increases, reducing the attraction/attachment of the boiled egg white to the membrane, which is why fresh egg shells are more likely to tear strips of white off as you peel.

    Eggs in the US can be up to 60 days old at the time of packaging, then are considered good for another 45 days. Large flats of eggs can contain eggs from multiple batches of varying age, so some eggs might be two weeks old and others two or more months.



  • I’m frequently recommending “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving” by Pete Walker for this. I always knew I had an unusual childhood but didn’t think my parents were abusive, just quirky. As an adult, I started seeing a therapist for anxiety. They strongly recommended this book after our first real session. Surprise: parental abuse so pervasive that I thought it was normal!

    I’ve had a few friends and acquaintances give it a read and they knew within the first few chapters if it was right for them or not.





  • I used to work in a thrift store. We’d arrive about two hours early to label merchandise and stock the shelves. One time someone left the front door unlocked. I found a woman browsing the store, in near darkness with all but a few lights off, at around 6:30 AM. The store opened at 8. When told to leave, she groused about how the door was open so it meant we were open, so she was going to finish her shopping. Fuck no. Trespassed.


  • One point in their defense: sign blindness, which is a combination of change blindness, inattentional blindness, and visual clutter.

    The retail environment tends to be full of visual clutter: products, prices, directions, labels, and advertisements. Especially advertisements. Even the products themselves often contain advertisements. Humans can only handle processing a limited amount of information at once, so we cope by not actively focusing on most of it. Otherwise, we’d be like small children in a theme park for the first time, stopping frequently to look at all the details. It becomes a skill and a habit that is automatically applied in similar environments.

    I’m guilty of it, and I strive to be an attentive, thoughtful person. Just the other day, I missed the “tap here” taped on the card reader at a convenience store. It was next to two advertisements for energy drinks, a rack of candy and truck stop boner pills also plastered with advertisements, and under all the signs you could imagine for tobacco products. Places like that teach us to tune out signs everywhere else.