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Cake day: November 11th, 2024

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  • I know it usually comes from a place of compassion, but trying to change anyone who hasn’t explicitly requested help doing so pretty much always results in conflict, resentment, and estrangement if it continues too long, at least in my experience. I’ve been on both sides and it sucks for everyone. Still dealing with the fallout of a failed relationship that had this problem (them trying to change me) and I still feel so worthless and broken… I just want to be good enough today 😭




  • applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneThe Story of Hyrule
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    1 month ago

    Why don’t you list the definition you’re operating under so we can skip the talking past each other argument. I was saying twink in it’s modern usage is more of a vibe than strict “gay cis male early twenties with low body hair and body fat”. I wasn’t saying that sentence is the entire definition of twink, so you’re right that’s not what twink means.


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    I don’t think Link has ever been depicted as having any body hair, so he can’t really be an otter. Also twink has evolved beyond its usage in gay culture. These days it’s more of a general term that implies vague queerness more than explicit cis male homosexuality. We don’t really know if Link is a femboy, trans femme, trans masc, or what, but he’s definitely a twink under the modern sexuality agnostic usage.











  • As someone who has recently been the person who doesn’t care anymore, but has also been the one who does, you aren’t doing yourself any favors clinging to someone who isn’t interested. It’s just going to hurt both of you the whole time and end the same anyway. You can’t change their feelings or your own feelings, but you can let them go and try to move on. It sucks and it hurts and it feels like such unfair bullshit, but in the end you will be better off without them, and as painful as it may be to hear they will be better off too.