well yeah, there’s only so much sexy to go around. how else do you propose we save some for spiders?

I’m sure you do :)

That being said, by choosing not to break gender norms, are you not helping reinforce what an idea of female is?

(OK, maybe I’m going round in circles here)

Anyway, you have a lovely day :)

but isn’t the difference in one case free gender expression, whereas the other is (e.g. for trans male to female): I think I’m a woman and to show this I’m going to specifically dress in the ‘stereotypically womanliest’ way possible?

or, more generally, people shouldn’t be using gender as the reason to dress and act the way they want to. else they’re affirming that a certain gender means a certain form of acting.

obviously this is an exaggeration. but since we’re playing the game.

ok, I’ll bite and role-play devil’s advocate. how do you respond to such a take?

well if the feminist movement is all about deconstructing gender and removing fixed ideas of gender, then surely the trans movement is reversing this by reinforcing stereotypes in how people dress etc. /s

and the most interesting part of the whole situation is that the other side most likely thinks the same