I think the corollary in lemmy world is, if your instance admin won’t support your needs, then you simply start your own instance that you can run as you see fit.
a little more work and learning curve involved, but much more resilient in the long run
this is a good way of describing it. it’s been so many years since the early internet, that I didn’t even recognize it why the vibes felt familiar. but now that you mentioned it, yes, it’s exactly the early internet vibes. and I didn’t even realize I was missing them. I’ll be sticking around too