I know this is overused and cliché but it gets better eventually. I had a very similar family situation and I knew that it wouldn’t get better until I move out so I essentially masked and became what they wanted me to be. I particularly have a narcissistic mom and she often projected onto me so I just had to perform to satisfy her delusions. Being two people at once is exhausting but you eventually compromise with yourself and bear with it until you can get into a situation to stop pretending.

There will always be a niche online community with your specific interests. The people you will meet online will stay as long as you make an effort to keep in touch. Even the low maintenance relationships are valuable. Maybe shoot a message to one of your old friends and see where that goes. Wouldn’t hurt to say hi every now and then.

Life is what you make it out to be, given whatever resources you have. Granted it’s not always going to be good and a lot of times it will hurt. Learning to accept that pain and sitting with it for a little helps a whole lot. There’s only so much that you can control. You can try to make your learning joyful again; try to reignite or find the passion in new knowledge. You can try and lessen your impact on the climate by eating less animal products and choosing plant-based options more.

Antidepressants aren’t meant to be a magic happy pill. Start with the small things. Maybe a good depression room cleaning and rearranging things around. A walk in the park. Less time on the screen. Sitting with your emotions. Venting and crying it out.

Yesterday, I would’ve agreed with and just wallowed with you but things got better today. You’re not alone. I believe that you can pick yourself up again one step at a time.

Posted something about keeping consistency. So many people commented great advice. People are so kind around here c:

The lack of unwanted rage bait posts and karma farmers has improved my mood by a lot. I gotta be honest though, I’m still scrolling through Apollo and giving myself my last dopamine hits before July 1st. Won’t miss that place

Doing great! Binged 7 episodes of Lost with my husband today after watching Mike’s Mic’s Appropriately Unhinged Recap of Lost S1. Had to get back to it after taking a break from the intense stories

Thank you for your rambling! I really appreciate it and it’s made me realize that I do love structure but sometimes being too strict makes me hate everything I do and I eventually spiral down back to square one. I need to be more flexible and just learn how to enjoy my day to day life by doing things that I know are good for me and by making those things fun.

Sorry for the late reply I’ve been stuck in a reddit binge before Apollo dies. Anyway, every tarot practitioner views it differently. For me, it’s a way to connect with myself and the energies around me. It’s very grounding since it’s just another tool for me to assess my actions and possible outcomes. It’s not something that predicts your future per se. I avoid personal bias by evaluating whether the reading resonates with what I feel and what is objectively happening around me.

In a nutshell, it’s a bunch of cards (78 cards) with different symbolisms and meanings. Pull as many as you need, interpret it based on the basic symbolisms and key words on your guide. Decide whether it resonates or not. Do it again as you please. It’s hard at first since there are a lot of cards but it just takes some practice to get better as with any other thing. Sometimes it takes me weeks before I grab my cards again, sometimes I need it on the daily.

I’ll keep the “easy, comfortable, gradual and sustainable” in mind. This is really helpful especially because I’ve been raised in a very pressuring environment where mistakes were condemned and the shaming penetrated through the bone. It’s been a year since I got out of that environment but I still can’t shake off the unrealistic expectations put on me. I should be in charge of my own parameters of success and happiness.

I know it’s been 5 days but I just want to thank you for believing in me, a random person on the internet. I have been stuck in another spiral of wallowing in self-hatred and overall negative things. Typing down this reply is making me anxious already but I know that I have to power through it and just start doing things. I’m preparing for a reset come July 1. Since 3rd party reddit apps will die that day, I can finally get rid of the main stress bringer in my life. I’m also going to set better achievable goals this time around. I will make it work.

I do some breathing exercises using a colorful blob on the screen and do some journaling. I also do tarot readings to assess my energies for the day and to ground myself better since I’m an anxious person. I guess I should really get back into it because I’m getting really antsy these days

I was born and raised Roman Catholic and attended Catholic schools up to college. I feel very disconnected from the religion because of how it upholds discriminatory views against gender minorities. There was also a lot of fear instilled in me when I was younger and I just grew out of it eventually. It didn’t make sense that I would do good just because a higher being promised salvation when I die. There well also too many hypocrites around me who would go to church religiously but never practice the teachings from the priest.

I now try to make sense of life as I see it and I still practice spirituality through Tarot. It’s brought me a lot of peace but I still struggle every now and then

First of all, thank you for doing free readings! I used to do them and I’d find my energy drained by the end of the day.

May I get a past/present/future spread regarding my career? I just started job hunting and it’s been intimidating so far. May I also get to know the cards you pulled for me? Thank you c:

Stay in bed and sulk until my depression passes

I was born after 8am. In astrology, it determines several zodiac placements on your natal chart. The chart is then used to predict your certain characteristics and future happenings in your life. I don’t take it as seriously now but it was fun getting my natal chart read by an astrologer. Whether it was the Barnum effect, cold reading, or just pure coincidence, I don’t really care much lol

It’s scary how greed has made the world so hostile. It’s hard to stay ignorant about these issues because it’s just one search away on a phone. Yet, people still choose ignorance. I feel a little lost and hopeless sometimes even though I try to do my part. Finding a safe space online seems crucial for my mental wellbeing. Glad I can be here

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I only follow the limit when my mental health is great. Otherwise, I’m stuck in an endless hole of doom-scrolling. Your self control is stronger than mine lol

Your self control with Tiktok is admirable. I tried setting 30 minute limits for the apps but it just doesn’t work for me. I’m glad Beehaw is giving you so much fulfillment too c:

I’m definitely going to do my best to scrub as much as I can with the help of my tech husband lol. I’ve had some of those accounts since 2010 and I’ll definitely have to put in some work.

The slowness actually helps me ground better. Like, it gives my brain time to buffer to better digest the information given to me. The learning curve to access this community isn’t that steep and I’m not a picky user anyway. I’ll stay primarily for the vibes lol

Cute animals are an easy start! Maybe asking for some food recommendations or even just posting something you’ve made. The possibilities are endless! It’s not a popularity contest anyway. People will see it and go ”hmmm” and maybe drop a comment. As long as you’re within the community and BeeHaw’s rules, you’ll be fine c:

Well, first and foremost, break the barrier of lurking and start posting. I still have yet to do that because I feel like I don’t have a lot to post other than cute pics of my dog lol. Lemmy isn’t reddit so it’s not going to be as hostile. It’s still the internet though so expect a little pushback every now and then.

Comment more on posts and try to keep in mind that each comment is like having a real face-to-face conversation with other users. This community is pleasant and I feel very at peace interacting here compared to the other site. This is the first time I’m commenting so much on posts too and it’s been a blast!

Well this was way before I went vegan but when I was younger, my dad would buy me balut. Balut is a delicacy in the Philippines and it’s basically boiled fertilized duck egg. One has to crack open the top part of the shell and drink the juices first. Then the whole shell is peeled off. The yolk would be the most edible part and I’ve known many Filipinos who just drink the juice and eat the yolk. Sometimes they’ll even eat a white part which has similar texture with very tough cartilage. Others go a little bit further and eat the tiny duck embryo. It’s commonly dipped in spicy vinegar or salt to give it more flavor. It’s definitely the furthest thing from healthy and I definitely wouldn’t eat it ever again