Thank you!

Well, we play my own folkrock songs and then covers as well. We’re trying to make a chill atmosphere. We mostly want people to leave with a: “oh, that was really pleasant!”-vibe, but also mix in some humourous bits here and there to keep people entertained.

I work with elderly people, so I’m trying to make a book that explores some of the lives left unheard thorughout the decades :)

Imposter syndrome gets us all at times. But hey, at least you’re asking, you’ll then know more and you’ll improve! They need to be patient with a new hire too, which it sounds like they are. Good luck!

My band is now officially a houseband for a local venue. Quite exciting!

I’m also writing a book, not necessarily to be published, but it’s a fun thing to do :)

If you think about it, latitude wise they’re closer to the Nordic countries. Estonia (and Latvia and Lithuania) have quite close ties to the Nordic countries both in terms of history and politics. Culturally, there’s also some overlap in terms of food and way of life.

Exactly!

I sincerely hope you get to live life authentically, whatever that might mean to you.

Isn’t it just?

Eventually yes. My country of origin is generally more accepting, though not perfect. We’re saving up for it :)

I’d love to, but I’m afraid it’s not as easy as that. My partner got beat up for wearing nail polish. A friend of mine got egged for having short hair as a girl. There have been murders and assaults of my like-minded people in the area.

While I know it’s important to have guts and to stand tall, I also want to make sure I stay alive so I can be there for my family.

But I hear you. I will be braver, if nothing else in little, safer ways for now. Maybe some wigs at home at least, lol.

Genderqueer is currently the “label” that feels the most comfortable, as I struggle to specify it further. I’m not sure I want to label it either, I just want to be understood. Thank you again!

I would chop off certain bits and add others, lol. I would wear wigs, or do different hairstyles often. I would expand my wardrobe so it could reflect how I feel more on a given day. I would be extravagant for no fucking reason other than… it’s Thursday.

Like, it’s destabilizing, it creates some unavoidable disassociation when your reality is out of sync with the people around you.

Nail on the head. I don’t feel like I’m asking for anything ludicrous here, it’s literally just clothing items that might go against the majority of people’s ideas of my perceived gender. Gender fuckery, if you will.

It’s odd when your entire existence is an event and a shock and a reset to others. I’m not out to provoke (though I’d be fine with people doing that, sometimes that’s exactly what it takes), I just want to live life how I feel it best suits me.

And yeah, I’m similar to you. My spouse and I have created a safe little haven for ourselves and our general friend group are either similar to us or understanding at least.

Thank you, your words mattered a lot to me.

That’s very kind of you to say, thank you. I understand it in theory, I’m not sure if I am or not. Their experiences seem different to mine. I would love to make some physical changes to my body, but not enough that I want to deal with any side effects or upkeep, nor do I have the money tbh. I kind of just want to… not be bound by gender.

I’m very comfortable with my sexuality, it’s my gender/gender roles/gender expression that I get stuck on - but there must be a counselor who deals with that as well. I just worry about any records of it as my country is very anti-transgender at the moment. Perhaps if it were a private one.

Thank you for your input, I definitely have something to ponder there.

Thank you very much, that is so kind of you ❤️

Thank you, that’s really heartwarming. I will definitely join you over there. I struggle a lot with feeling valid, as even transgender friends have told me I don’t sound transgender, which I don’t know if I am, I just don’t feel… Real. Just as gay/lesbian friends have told me there’s no such thing as bisexuals (this was back in the 80s-90s though, some have changed their tune since), but I definitely know where I stand sexuality wise.

Anyway, blabla, thank you, I’ll see you over there!