Same here. Apollo stopped and I came here.

Holy shit, time flies. It was Apollo for me.

Damn.

It has a lot to do with it, but I’ve only ever been with one fellow musician. None of the other women played music. They just liked music.

I don’t get it, really. Maybe I’ve just been really lucky.

I have not been single for more than about 5 months since I was 13 (aside from a short window between 18 and 20 when I worked at an office full of people in their 50s and had no contact with anyone my own age). When my ex and I split after about 13 years, I had several flings between that and meeting my wife. I didn’t go looking for them either. I never once made a pass at any woman until she first said something obvious to me. I don’t do subtlety at all.

I’m not attractive, I’m not tall. I haven’t settled and been with anyone I didn’t find attractive or intelligent (only once, directly after the split with my ex, I was a wreck. She was pretty, but dumb as a box of rocks. I was projecting things onto her that weren’t true at all because of the state that I was in).

I am a musician in a small town though, and almost every girl I ever dated was deeply into music and it usually started from there.

It could just be luck, but I really do believe it has everything to do with confidence and being sure of oneself. I have issues, and a lot of them, but I don’t hold back and I never have. The people who don’t like me have an honest reason not to and the people who do don’t have to guess with me.

I have always been unapologetically who I am wherever I go.

I also prefer the company of no one and spend most of my time in isolation and I’ve still had good luck.

I’m getting older now though, and I’m a stay at home dad these days and more isolated than I’ve ever been. I would say that if my wife were to leave me today, I’d be alone for a very long time.

I’m not bragging here either, I’m not about that kind of thing at all. I’m obviously coming from a position of privilege, be it luck or whatever I have going on here that gives me that privilege. I really do think it would be easier for other men though if they’d find confidence and become very passionate about something that women can relate to. My passion for music has definitely, definitely, definitely helped me.

I even spent many years struggling with drug addiction, would not date anyone who had that problem in common with me, and I still found sober women who were willing to tolerate me.

I don’t know. I just hope that if you feel hopelessly alone and you read this comment, it will give you some hope.

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Don’t just downvote. Discuss it you bitter twat lol. Seriously. I’d like to see your perspective on the matter.

You can’t just say that and not lay any dirt down at all.

Learn, learn, traumatize someone you care deeply about without meaning to, learn, learn, that person dies. Learn some more, then some more, then die.

Man. This reminds me of one of the funniest moments in all of life.

My niece came over to spend the weekend with my daughters and used my exes laptop to look at videos on YouTube. She was really into everything babies at the time, but specifically diapers and bodily functions (thank you baby alive).

She looked up “baby peeing”. She shared nearly 20 videos of baby alive dolls and diaper changes on my exes Facebook with captions like. “Look at the wee wee water awwwwwww”. “This baby sure pee pee a lot”. “This baby poop like playdoh”.

Then she moved on to animal videos. I guess the baby alive dolls made her think of the bodily functions of animals.

She posted several videos of animals urinating.

“Awww he got pee pee everywhere.” “What a nasty nasty mess”.

And finally, the video that led to a call from a friend of hers. Somehow in the rabbit hole of animal videos she found one of pigs mating. “Look at pig ride the other pig. So funny.”

This is right around the time of the first iPhone and we were still using computers so no notifications. When she logged in she was so humiliated. Comments like, “are you ok girl?” And finally, “ok this is just nasty. Something is wrong with her and someone needs to take her computer away.”

I don’t think I’ve ever seen a more humiliated person haha.

My kid was crazy about those books.

I enjoyed this. Thank you.

I had an old friend who showed up to the office naked. He was a local legend for his stunts. He walked in and sat down. The dude behind the desk asked him what the hell he was doing. He said, “Well, y’all are getting ready to fuck me, ain’t ya? I figured I’d go ahead and get undressed.”

He worked at a mine, so it was all men, and it was the 90s. Everyone knew his sense of humor and everyone loved him.

He was back at work 3 months later.

He died from black lung in 2019. The whole damn community was broken up about it. Everyone who talks about him has some crazy story.

RIP Rolly Poly.

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I agree with you, but human beings have been doing the whole “spiritual advice” thing forever.

Most people are religious.

Give me my frickin burger, Ricky!

:p yoooooou! What are you doing here?

As someone who worked in a gas station for 24 years…

sigh

I’d do it. I’d suck it up. I’d make some damn good friends along the way and then I’d never maintain those friendships and feel guilty for the rest of rest of my life. “Just call him, dipshit. He’s going through a divorce! Just go fishing! Pleaaassse! Ok, here goes. Tomorrow.”

Always tomorrow.

It happened to my cousin awhile back with Photoshop. She’s a professional photographer and it shut her down for a few days. I found it pretty quickly and an update stopped it from happening. It wasn’t removing temporary files and totally filled her drive up.

Poor thing was ready to buy a new hard drive.

Red Bull is also twice as expensive. You get used to the jitters eventually. :p

I bought some for my daughter to learn and you’re right, it’s not cheap.

It didn’t go the way she wanted it to go so she threw it away. I really wish I had been able to keep it so she can see her progress one day.

This about me and my kid ain’t it? :p

Me too. God bless the Appalachian mountains.

I’ve probably met more mouth breathing, lead paint eating morons (myself included. As a matter of fact, at one time I was a t-1000 Liquid Metal mercury from 50 thermometers in my hand moron) than most people will ever encounter in 10 lifetimes. I can count on one hand just how many of those people were truly bad people.

If I have a visibly heavy load at work, it can be annoying how many people wander up and say, “hey ‘ere buddy. Yew gawn need inny hep wittat? I’ze just checkin’.”

Open the hood of your car and you can summon an entire neighborhood. For real, need directions in the Appalachians, just stop somewhere with houses, open your hood and spend a few minutes staring at your engine.

Well that’s not the part I’m talking about. I’m talking specifically about the leadership.

I’m an atheist who attended AA for years and I never worked the steps. The old heads definitely start to put the pressure on you after awhile though. “Yer higher power could be the universe.” Well, yeah, but it specifically says god.