• Underwaterbob@lemm.ee
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    I don’t see how any of that is objective aside from it being the most commonly accepted, or “pushed” in your words.

    A successful two person relationship requires a significant amount of compromise and sacrifice. How does having more partners lessen that?

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      it doesnt but you dont have to worry about monogamy-only rules like dont do this and dont do that, which is exclusive to monogamy. which makes it objectively worse since you dont have to worry about that in other relationships.

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        it doesnt but you dont have to worry about monogamy-only rules like dont do this and dont do that, which is exclusive to monogamy. which makes it objectively worse since you dont have to worry about that in other relationships.

        All of the others - short of anarchy - also have their rules. For example, polyfidelity is nearly identical to monoamory except you now have to consider the dos and don’ts of both of your partners making it objectively more complicated than monoamory.

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        That’s not a rule to get around, its called respecting your partners wishes. Its a basic common decency regardless of how many partners you have.

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            It does not impact your freedoms. Its not like you literally can’t cheat, you just cant cheat and continue a relationship with them. Everyone has their own terms. Yeah, if you can’t handle not cheating, then don’t date a person that wants a monogamous relationship. It doesn’t mean its “inferior”, it just means you don’t want it. Grow up.

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              Grow up? Because I think relationships with less rules are superior?

              Children can’t handle different opinions from what I know.

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                You are acting childish because you are claiming relationships you don’t like are automatically inferior to those you do like. I don’t care what kind of relationship you prefer, its irrelevant. Yes. Grow up.

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                  im expressing my opinion based on objective stuff that you dont seem to be able to discuss. again i dont think im the child here.

                  i think you are just bothered that somebody considers your favorite kind of relationship inferior and you cant really find anything to prove me wrong with.

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                    There is nothing to prove you wrong with because its an opinion. I never said you were wrong, its just overzealous to declare your opinion as the ultimate truth. I have said this multiple times, I absolutely do not give a shit about your opinion on relationships. You have made it overwhelmingly clear that your opinion isn’t worth much anyway. Not to mention the fact that I haven’t even stated my opinion on the subject yet. The truth is, I don’t even know what relationship style I prefer. I’ve only tried one, so instead of declaring myself benevolent dictator of love to feel like I’m worth something, I accept that I have limited experience with the subject. If you haven’t gotten the point yet, then there isn’t much I can do to help you. Based on how you act, I’m guessing you’re very young, so hopefully you’ll figure it out when you actually do grow up.

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                    “Objective”

                    Wow, you really don’t know what words mean, do you? Not surprising since you sound like a toddler.

                    If you ever actually experience your first relationship you’ll learn why literally every word you’re spouting is complete bullshit.

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                “Children can’t handle different opinions”

                Oh the irony is fucking delicious.

                You’re dead wrong about everything, sorry, thanks for playing. Grow up.

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        Having had both types of relationship. This is such backwards thinking, with most poly relationships you will have to make severe sacrifices to the time spent with most of your partners, and often end up with more non romantic relationships. Breakups are more complicated. Not to mention how much more communication it requires to keep together. Calling that anything but a major compromise is just lying. I am not saying any type of relationship is more valid. But that they all come with different compromises which work better for different kinds of people. Just because it works better for you doesn’t mean it does for everyone.