• TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Sometimes the qualities that make them bad for me. I know I shouldn’t want them and should just move on, but it really isn’t a choice 😣

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        4 months ago

        Being socially dominant, flirty, irreverent, capable of being mean in dealing with opponents, yet having a softer side that prevents him from being totally awful. You know that he’s not a great person sometimes, but he’s also really sweet and kind enough of the time. You might know that he probably doesn’t like you and will be awful to you if you try for him, but logic and reasoning can’t overcome stupid desire.

        I’m normally able to keep such people at arms length when I’m not attracted to them in that way. I get the most out of the relationship by knowing when to step away. Such friendships can be more fruitful than friendships with people who are far nicer, but if I fall for them, it becomes a hellish experience. Idk why, but bad boys just hit different :/