This community is housed on an instance run by two trans women, focused on the needs of the queer and gender diverse community.

We allowed 196 here because we were promised the community is queer and trans inclusive.

If you’re here it’s because you’re aggressively supportive of trans folk. Not middle of the ground, not “just asking questions”.

If your response to that is, “yes, but…” then this isn’t the instance for you, and by extension, this isn’t the community for you.

tl;dr - Unambiguous support and inclusion, or fuck off somewhere else.

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Edit - I changed the phrase "aggressive support to “unambiguous support”, as there was some confusion over the intent behind my previous phrasing.

  • LeylaaLovee@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    21·
    1 year ago

    Someone asked if a straight guy would fuck a trans man, straight guy responded by saying he’d be down to fuck a trans man if they hadn’t transitioned yet. In a later comment he said he was attracted to post op trans women and pre op trans men. It wasn’t aggressive transphobia, but grouping trans people by their genitals in a space like this isn’t going to be appreciated.

    The real problem came with the thread the mod posted. If I didn’t know better, I’d assume it was a baitpost. Mod made the post then quickly disappeared after people in the new thread started their “I’m an ally, BUT…” comments. Original commenter said he can’t be friends with trans women because they all have chips on their shoulders. Someone said trans people are the Karens of the LGBT community and weren’t wanted. Just a lot of shit that shouldn’t be on an instance that is literally a trans safe space.

    • Boinketh@lemm.eeEnglish
      14·
      1 year ago

      Thanks for the explanation. He’s a “straight” man and he’d fuck a trans man? Idk, sounds pretty gay to me.

      • Sekoia@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        9·
        1 year ago

        It’s specifically before transition. Honestly to me the original comment is pretty okay, a bit easy to misunderstand. From what I got it was “yeah since I like women, and a trans man before transitioning looks like a woman, I’d be attracted to them. However the parts attractive to me are dysphoric for them which probably causes conflict” which seems like somebody thinking aloud about something they haven’t put a lot of thought into ever.

        Anyway the mod’s post was bad, the comments were awful, bloody mess.

        • Boinketh@lemm.eeEnglish
          2·
          1 year ago

          Maybe it’s just me, but I’d have a hard time being with someone who was mentally a man, even if he was physically female.

          • Sekoia@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
            2·
            1 year ago

            Yeah imo it’d be weird. Like in a theoretical sense you could be attracted to them but a relationship I don’t think would work (for a straight dude which I am not so take that with a grain of salt)