• DavidGarcia@feddit.nl
    11·
    1 year ago

    This “I can do better” mindset is probably the single biggest factor why people end up lonely for the rest of their life.

    • Lojcs@lemm.ee
      4·
      1 year ago

      It sounds like oop didn’t really love her tho. They acted rash but it’s not like they saw other girls and decided to ditch the relationship

    • erogenouswarzone@lemmy.ml
      41·
      1 year ago

      It’s such an easy mindset to fall into, esp that young. Your other makes you feel so special, and you can easily think you can replicate that with anyone. You can’t, it comes very seldom, if ever.

    • blindbunny@lemmy.mlEnglish
      11·
      1 year ago

      I realized that was monogamy. When you don’t have to chose just one person to share you life with you get to decide who you want to share your life with.

      • JokeDeity@lemm.ee
        21·
        1 year ago

        In my experience, every single polyamorous relationship I’ve known of has been led by a pathetic man who thinks he’s the best thing ever created, there’s always multiple girls, rarely multiple guys and the girls don’t really have any of the power in the relationships, although many of them are convinced that isn’t the case.

        Tl;dr polyamory is for self-centered douchebags with low morality and self-control.

        • blindbunny@lemmy.mlEnglish
          21·
          1 year ago

          Yikes sorry to hear that. My polycule isn’t “led”. I’m one of two cis males but we’re both bi and aren’t romanticly involved. There are no cis women in my polycule but a couple of nonbinary beans. I suppose one of the nonbinary beans makes the financial decisions so they lead in that regard but we mostly have intersecting hobbies. I do have a girlfriend everyone is aware of but she’s not really involved in the polycule and only really interested in me.

          But the feeling of “I can do better” usually means giving up your current relationship to support the next one. With healthy ethical non-monogamy the polycule tends to help you get the relationships you want to be involved with. But it appears this is just my experience.

  • Th4tGuyII@kbin.social
    3·
    1 year ago

    Man, that’s a depressing read…

    Sometimes it’s easy to start taking what you have for granted, to lose sight of the forest for the trees, and you’ll never know what you’re losing or already lost until the fog of the future fades away to reveal the mistakes you made along the way.