Same here. I like wearing skirts and being pretty but I’m a cis guy. Due to my exploration of gender expression my friends are occasionally like “Are you sure you’re cis?” And I’m just like “Yep, still a man unfortunately. I’d straight up be something else if I could but nope. Still a dude.”

If just telling her what you want isn’t enough for you to feel like you’re communicating effectively, try asking her if you could add to it by telling her how you want it, and then maybe expand to how you’re desiring to feel about it.

E.g. not just “I would like oral” but instead, “I would like oral, and I’d love to hear that you’re enjoying it, however you want to express it.” <- This is a request that is direct and specific but doesn’t feel robotic or unceremonious IMHO.

I have ASD and my wife doesn’t, so we’ve established that it often makes the most sense when we just explicitly just ask one another, “what can I do for you tonight?” Which leads to very specific answers about what we’re wanting to get out of it and how we can best achieve that together. “I’ve been thinking about you in this way” or “I’d like to know what it looks/feels/tastes/sounds like when you …” Followed by describing whatever action would best fulfill the desire, followed by any specifics and how we’re feeling about it now. “Now that we’ve talked about it I’m definitely excited to see that” and such.

Dunno if that’s helpful but there might be ways to make it feel more special while still being explicit and direct! Just talk about the how and why and how you feel about it.

Basically, imagine every gun has a laser beam coming out the end. If that laser lights something up, that something is in danger.

Four words all uppercase, one word all lowercase

Not at all. How are you supposed to monitor without being aware of what’s on the device?

Vulcan on a hulk hen is absolute fire

Honestly all of the “it runs badly even on a 4090” stuff is talking about 4K with all the settings maxed - It runs at a solid minimum 30 for me at 1440p on my 3080 at nearly ultra settings. As long as you’re not expecting 60FPS at 4K, you can enable RT overdrive on affordable hardware.

Cyberpunk 2077’s RT Overdrive mode looks absolutely insanely good.

Meanwhile I replaced my casters on my aeron with skateboard wheel casters to smoothly glide about

We may not know what comprises A thought, but I think we know it’s not matrix math. Which is basically all an LLM is

You could use a Cloudflare tunnel if you really wanted to avoid opening ports, but basically as long as you only open the right ports for what you want to host and have a good firewall (I use OPNSense) you’re fine

This will also be the case for me eventually, once I get around to setting up a Lemmy instance it’ll just be joining all the other stuff already in my lab k3s cluster

I think the biggest difference here is that I keep getting surprised by how civil most of the discussions are.

Indeed.

Yeah its a whole mess out there if you don’t have a proper phone number

Southern US: We have a private well on our property and the water is of course filtered to the whole house (changed often) and regularly tested; It’s perfectly fine to drink without boiling.

Until someone uses a bunch of Google Voice numbers and gets each of them banned before someone a few months later happens to get one of the banned numbers and tries to sign up.

Only bringing it up because a similar thing happened to me; I got a Google Voice number and found out it was already related to a spam account on a site I wanted to use. Their support team understood and it had been like 6 months so they undid it but still. Bit of a pain.

That’s terrifyingly good wtf

Almost downvoted you as an instinct

Huh. Never heard of this before and so far it’s… Interesting. Side note, I have ADHD and autism so if this sounds negative or judgy that’s not my goa l- I’m not trying to come across as negative here, just sharing my first experience of this.

First few songs I’ve found and the overall sound is kinda grating on me, there’s a lot of dissonance and it feels like all the instruments and vocals are competing with each other for my attention. The vocals sound like the singers are too far away from the microphone and turned down too far in the mix, but still trying to compete with the (already loud+dissonant) rest of the track. It almost feels like unorganized chaos in a musical trenchcoat if that makes sense.

I had to turn off the playlist I found after four songs, my head is already so noisy that something so loud (broadband noise if that makes sense) makes me feel horrible.

I don’t like to hate on music, and I find that there’s some artistic merit to most genres… But this feels in my head like anti-art, I think? Where it’s clear that the people making it have talent and ability and are using it to purposely make something unsettling.

Can you expand on what’s supposed to make this enjoyable? I want to appreciate the artistic value but I’m really struggling to find it.