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  • Zink@programming.devto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneemorule
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    2 months ago

    Hell yeah!

    I am not flamboyant myself. Along with being a strongly introverted AuDHD computer nerd, I am a straight adult cisgender man with a long beard and literally wearing a red & green flannel shirt right now. I’ve been trying to wear natural fibers lately and it’s 100% cotton coziness.

    The frumpy dumpy path so many in my demo seem to assume is their destiny can fuck alllll the way off. We need people to share their interests and be flamboyant if that’s what’s in their heart!

    God forbid we allow a spark of joy in our hearts to reach out and improve the existence of another human, right? Especially when we could have spent more time being good worker bees and consumers of product and content, so that a few sociopaths could watch a number go up and wait for the contentment that will never come.




  • Zink@programming.devto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneTinderule
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    3 months ago

    USian here and I remember knowing about this for most of my life, but I never looked into its origins. I still haven’t, and right now I don’t care to.

    But holy shit does it feel like racism must have played a role.

    edit to add: I ALSO remember on and after the Jan 6 insurriot how it seemed like hundreds of those people should be going down for felony murder. Funny how that didn’t happen.






  • Zink@programming.devto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneVal(r)u(l)es
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    3 months ago

    If I assume good intentions in the people you are talking about, maybe this is a case of different assumed contexts between speaker and listener. Some people have just seen the “another republican known for actively harming LGBT+ folks revealed as closeted self-loathing asshole” cliche so many times that it’s a go-to comment for that specific type of person.

    So it wouldn’t be that all people you don’t like are gay. More like the outspoken conservatives you don’t like. Admittedly that’s still painting with a broad brush.

    With all that said, I can’t assume good intentions across the board so there are plenty of people for whom you are correct.

    And it gets even worse with the apparent popularity of pedophilia among the world’s elite. Conservatives have already spent many years framing any sex stuff they personally find icky to be equally evil and bad for society.





  • Zink@programming.devtoAnimemes@ani.socialAlways wanted to do this
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    6 months ago

    That’s how it was at the university level for me in the US.

    In high school though, yeah even 20+ years ago it was getting permission to leave or having justification to be wandering the halls during classes (which I often did, haha).

    It didn’t seem overbearing at the time because we would move between classrooms every 45 minutes anyway, and it was like the school was responsible for you like a parent would be.

    In hindsight, yeah the authoritarian structure of the public schools looks bad, especially since the country has slid to the right and school security designed around mass shootings is the norm.


  • Zink@programming.devto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonegrulef
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    7 months ago

    It seems to me that most hatred for golf comes because of capitalism and not because of golf.

    I think you’re right, and you summed up my thoughts about the first 80% of your comment better than I was going to, lol.

    I’d say the hatred for golf has a lot in common with the dislike behind the fuckcars communities. It’s not that people hate the experience of a clean hit in golf or a brisk drive down twisty country roads. It’s the resources that go into supporting them which by definition do not go into supporting more efficient/healthy/equitable choices. And yes there is probably a secondary effect tied to certain target audiences who value exclusivity and are generally the worst.


  • The crazy thing is we have 240V service to the home, but we only use it for large appliances that also use high current. My stove is induction and is one of the things plugs into 240V, and I bet it can boil a cup of water (though in a pot/pan) faster than most kettles.

    There are plenty of cases where having the higher voltage in our outlets would be nice. For me it’s probably corded power tools more than kettles. But the vast majority of devices are fine either way.


  • Zink@programming.devto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonegamer rule
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    8 months ago

    Well said!

    And I will emphasize that this point:

    just live for gaining wealth and respect

    is part of the problem with the whole conservative strong male image before you even get to the relationship status. I was raised to think that way, not being explicitly told that but it being an ingrained part of the culture.

    And even THAT is a subset of the value placed on conformity and pursuing the goals you are supposed to pursue rather than what brings you actual fulfillment.


  • Zink@programming.devto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonePraise the rule!
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    9 months ago

    This comment connects the dots so incredibly well compared with what I see from my angry conservative family.

    They can’t imagine someone sincerely supporting a cause they care about and assume we all only do it for recognition among our peers, because that’s the way they use causes. To signal to the in-group that we are one of them.

    Fuuuck, that is exactly the mindset I was raised to have, and which I very much had during my angry teenage years. Fortunately that was a long-ass time ago and in the decades since I’ve had everything from college to the internet to let me consider the thoughts and arguments of other less angry/hateful/bigoted/sociopathic people.