we have to find ways to restore the other side’s empathy. it’s the only thing that’s worked for me.

I’m trans. I spent months talking with TERFs, long ago. it was horrible. but, I managed to make a connection with one of them. I described my experiences, my life, the feelings of dysphoria, the hurt from the hate… she listened, and came to care about me, and left their hateful cult.

I repeated this with conservatives I met. taught myself to keep my cool, to be honest, to answer mocking with sincerity. I didn’t try to be “one of the good ones,” I didn’t throw my sisters under the bus, I made it clear that most of us were like me - just wanting to live happy, fulfilling lives.

we need to make friends with enemies. even when they betray us and hurt us. it’s dangerous but I can see no better way forward.

aren’t we all hermaphrodites in that analogy?

I’d actually love a series of 1-hour lectures and a series of textbooks, but I’m a massive nerd.

leader/follower for things like Paxos and RAID arrays works okay.

wait, like bears, or bear bears? are bear bears like bears?

I don’t know the details, so I could be out of line, but you sometimes do have to force severe anorexia patients to eat. you can straight up die from it. and once you’re anorexic for long enough, your body stops feeling hungry at appropriate times, so you have to make yourself eat X number of calories on a schedule for a few months during refeeding.

t. recovered anorexic who narrowly avoided inpatient.

I call it trans-inclusive radical misogyny, as it’s basically the inverse of being a terf.

I love trans-inclusive radical misogyny. it’s so blursed. imagine if we had this instead of terfs.

with 2PB of storage, what resolution could you store of a full-frontal pic of the average woman? what feature size could you get down to?

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slavery wouldn’t ever be voluntary, since any rational person would only decide to sell themself into slavery due to material hardship, so they’d be a victim and the slaveowner would profit from their suffering, thereby indirectly funding the economic conditions that led to slavery. and any irrational person would lack the mental capacity to have signed such a contract. in either case the contract would be unconscionable, rendering it invalid.

Hive minds would be a superior form of consciousness than lone individual minds. If the technology ever materializes, we should install brain implants to create a form of wireless telepathy, allowing the sharing of senses, ideas, knowledge, feelings and subsume our self-awareness into group awareness, like little Borg cubes.

the number of times I’ve wished for a time machine so I could transition sooner… 😣