• stappern@lemmy.onedeleted by creator
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    It is inferior simply because it’s the pushed default while it’s the most complicated and the type that requires most personal sacrifices. This is objective.

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      I don’t see how any of that is objective aside from it being the most commonly accepted, or “pushed” in your words.

      A successful two person relationship requires a significant amount of compromise and sacrifice. How does having more partners lessen that?

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        it doesnt but you dont have to worry about monogamy-only rules like dont do this and dont do that, which is exclusive to monogamy. which makes it objectively worse since you dont have to worry about that in other relationships.

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          it doesnt but you dont have to worry about monogamy-only rules like dont do this and dont do that, which is exclusive to monogamy. which makes it objectively worse since you dont have to worry about that in other relationships.

          All of the others - short of anarchy - also have their rules. For example, polyfidelity is nearly identical to monoamory except you now have to consider the dos and don’ts of both of your partners making it objectively more complicated than monoamory.

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          That’s not a rule to get around, its called respecting your partners wishes. Its a basic common decency regardless of how many partners you have.

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            if my partner wishes impact on my basic freedoms they can go get fucked :)

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              It does not impact your freedoms. Its not like you literally can’t cheat, you just cant cheat and continue a relationship with them. Everyone has their own terms. Yeah, if you can’t handle not cheating, then don’t date a person that wants a monogamous relationship. It doesn’t mean its “inferior”, it just means you don’t want it. Grow up.

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                Grow up? Because I think relationships with less rules are superior?

                Children can’t handle different opinions from what I know.

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                  You are acting childish because you are claiming relationships you don’t like are automatically inferior to those you do like. I don’t care what kind of relationship you prefer, its irrelevant. Yes. Grow up.

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                    im expressing my opinion based on objective stuff that you dont seem to be able to discuss. again i dont think im the child here.

                    i think you are just bothered that somebody considers your favorite kind of relationship inferior and you cant really find anything to prove me wrong with.

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                  “Children can’t handle different opinions”

                  Oh the irony is fucking delicious.

                  You’re dead wrong about everything, sorry, thanks for playing. Grow up.

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          Having had both types of relationship. This is such backwards thinking, with most poly relationships you will have to make severe sacrifices to the time spent with most of your partners, and often end up with more non romantic relationships. Breakups are more complicated. Not to mention how much more communication it requires to keep together. Calling that anything but a major compromise is just lying. I am not saying any type of relationship is more valid. But that they all come with different compromises which work better for different kinds of people. Just because it works better for you doesn’t mean it does for everyone.

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            poly relationships also sucks in my opinion but still better than monogamy

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      Lmao you can’t just say “this is objective” after the most fucking subjective sentence ever written. You’re clueless.