Yeah, that’s been my experience as well. It took a lot longer than it should have to realize that it’s normal and the people that matter will overlook that initial awkwardness to get to know you.

I still remember the guy who commented on my watch at the soap isle and then we had a whole ass conversation about them. Kind of awkward start because my brain wasn’t ready for that but it was a nice experience all in all.

They’ll get to them after they finish with the trans people.

just don’t be a jerk and let me live my life

That’s literally acceptance…

Even in the best state 13% said no. More than 1 in 10. The fucking whole country is filled with disgusting human beings. I wonder what they’d say to the obvious follow up question of “Okay, what do you think should be done with homosexual people?”

Finally, a religion that makes sense.

I wouldn’t consider that flirting.

No one should be hitting anyone. If you initiate violence accept the consequences. I’m a small dude, do you think I shouldn’t get my ass beat for punching a bigger guy?

I’ve had that happen as like a light tap when I said something teasing them. I think it was a test the waters of “is it okay to touch?” kind of thing. There was never any heat behind it. I’d rather they do that if they’re into me than nothing.

I apologize, my reply was not clear. I didn’t mean being more socially active helped with bpd or that it was something that could be “gotten over”.

I was referring to the “favorite person” aspect. Having a wider social circle helped me to spread my attention around and not get too fixated on any one person.

“Be hot” is subjective, and a lower bar than most people think it is. Taking care of yourself and making an effort to dress nice goes a long way. Personality also plays into it quite a bit. I got a lot more success when I started making an effort to maintain a positive attitude when I was out socializing and I’m someone the incels would tell you has absolutely no chance.

Not sure how old you are but I eventually got over that. For me being a lot more socially active and hanging out with a bigger group of people helped to get away from that.

My partner was saying how it seems like most men cant look at a woman without also thinking about sex with them.

As a man I feel that way sometimes, sex is always on my mind. But like, if I look at a woman I’m not attracted to I just … don’t want to have sex with them. They’re still a person who I can have platonic interactions with. Same for the vast majority of women who I would like to have sex with who don’t feel the same way about me. I think this is the part the misogynist/transphobic dudes struggle with, they can’t get over themselves. For me the sexual thoughts are more often annoying than anything else and they’re only one part of the “whole” that I think about women.

Yeah, you can still go out there if you don’t smoke though. I’ve never had smokers tell me to fuck off when I didn’t smoke. Usually if anything someone would offer me one, I’d say no thank you, and we’d move on to talking about whatever. I did carry a lighter with me so I could at least offer them that though.

Never really missed it. We just talked about dumb shit happening at work or whatever.

I just took smoke breaks and didn’t smoke. Only ever got called out for it once and that guy was a major asshole anyway.

Probably expecting some tradwife shit where she stays home and keeps house and gets pregnant.

You’ve brought this up in response to someone saying trans people have the brain of their gender. I fail to see what relevance this has other than to give transphobes something to point at and be like “uh biologically speaking hur dur” when trans people express themselves. It’s not important. Scientifically maybe it’s interesting, but not in this context.

For the purposes of this discussion it doesn’t really matter what’s going on with the physical structure of their brain. If their brain thinks and feels they are women then they have a woman’s brain.

I don’t think the people calling him gay see the woman he’s dating as “used to be male”.