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Cake day: July 8th, 2023

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  • Nobody (including you) should put other peoples’ feeling above your own, as that is an extremely unhealthy thing to do. Being considerate of someone’s feelings and sacrificing your own feelings for someone else are two very different things.

    The people I talk to don’t mind the way I talk, and that is how I judge my language. I also make sure that I give them the environment necessary to express their discomfort with my language if they have any.

    Do you have any non-gendered alternatives to “dude” and “bro?”


  • If you’re truly gender-abolitionist and (I will optimistically assume) race-abolitionist, and don’t want to have gender be part of you, congruently, maybe don’t use dude or bro at all anymore?

    Gender, race, nationality, and country abolishionist.

    I would love an alternative, but the colloquial American English language does not have casual, non-gendered words to refer to people in general other than “comrade”, but I don’t want to call everyone a comrade because then everyone will think I’m a communist (I am, but I don’t want that to be public).



  • I’m a person who calls everyone “dude”, “bro”, “man” etc. regardless of gender. When I talk to a woman using those words, my mentality isn’t that they are necessarilly “one of the bros” specifically meaning “similar to one of my male friends”, but more that I’ve never called anyone “sis” or “girl” in my life, and I’m not about to start. I also don’t like using gendered pronouns in any conversation, regardless of who I’m talking to. For example, instead of “him” or “her”, I will usually say " 'em" (short for them).

    To me, I am not talking to a man or a woman; I am talking to a human.

    With my transfem friends, though, I usually just call them by their name, since that seems to be a good compromise.

    Who knows. Maybe I’ll just start calling everyone “comrade”