Fun fact, if you use friendly/camaraderie language when you ain’t my friend or comrade I think you’re fake and you call me words I don’t like I’m certainly not your friend.

There’s also a difference between masculine default and gender neutral.

I’m so sick of fake friendliness. I’m so sick of masculine default. I’m so fucking sick of people being disrespectful to the person in front of them, and acting like I’m the rude one for saying “Oh, please don’t…”

Black men called each other brother and man because white men called them boy, white boys started calling everyone man (and dude and bro) in escalation, then women took it up as a reclamation.

Calling a girl dude is still patriarchy and misgendering; how somebody receives your words is more important than your obscure use case and it shouldn’t be a reach to just not.