Hi all,
I’m a 39M IT guy from New Zealand. Never been in a serious relationship, never had sex either, not sure if I’ll ever get to in the future. But I do hope to experience it at least once before I die, so that I can see for myself what the fuss is all about.
My favorite hobbies are cooking (vegan), gardening, pets, yoga, meditation, photography, karaoke, gaming, technology, reading books/manga/manhua/manhwa, Star Trek, hiking, trying out a different kind of tea every month, and going on early morning walks to catch the sunrise from a scenic spot.
AMA but please be nice, thanks!
Thank you for your kind words, internet stranger, I really appreciate it. If you don’t mind me asking, how did you manage to break away from your depression and eventually meet your fated one?
Big life changes helped. I moved, changed jobs. I met my wife through the internet. I took the time to make a serious, though out profile on a paid site (best $30 I ever spent). No tinder, no superficiality, not a hookup person. I didn’t have a high response rate from messages I sent out, but I let that roll off and kept at it and was patient.
I’m not a person generally prone to depression or deep emotion, so it eventually passed. I didn’t go to a therapist, but my brother swears by it and says it’s useful for everyone.
Not the commenter you asked, but there’s a simple mantra called “no more zero days” which originated from some reddit post, but is kind of proven nowadays.
tl;dr: forgive and be grateful to yourself, read (books) / learn, exercise, do at least a very small thing every day, even if it’s just getting dressed and take a walk of 5min or reading 1 line in a book or doing 1 small household chore, e.g. doing the dishes or laundry.