As someone with that, I say, fuck off to that “authority”.
Social norms are to be broken. We didn’t get Stonewall riots by following police and law and order. We didn’t get women’s rights by meekly letting men trample us. We didn’t get general suffrage by not rioting. We didn’t get the right to strike by doing nothing.
I think the attitude you’re being held back by, is more destructive. You’re willfully following rules instead of questioning them, then deciding whether they are justified to follow or not.
I think what you’re telling is not a “harsh reality” but a fabrication that neurotypical people tell themselves to justify “following orders”. Fuck that shit.
If I did what you said me to, I’d be in a much worse mental headspace now. I feel sorry for your son. You blindly following social norms IS the problem. Try to address that instead. Try to actually understand why your son finds it difficult. Most of us find it difficult because the authority is not justified: there’s no explanation, not even an imperfect one. We’re instead told to just suck it up instead of hearing, “hey, yeah, you got a point.” or even just engaging the discussion. Let it be the other way around. You go try to think if there’s something that you both could agree as justified for a rule. If such a thing isn’t there, then no need for the rule. Good authority doesn’t flow from “because I say so”, but from clear and justifiable rules.
I’m not going to mask myself because others refuse to take others into account. I have plenty of good interaction when I am not forced into masking, and less when I have to mask.
Let me ask you a question. Have you ever gone through what your son is going through with you now? Should a good parent not want to try to understand their child instead, rather than to force their own norms onto their descendant?
As someone with that, I say, fuck off to that “authority”.
Social norms are to be broken. We didn’t get Stonewall riots by following police and law and order. We didn’t get women’s rights by meekly letting men trample us. We didn’t get general suffrage by not rioting. We didn’t get the right to strike by doing nothing.
I think the attitude you’re being held back by, is more destructive. You’re willfully following rules instead of questioning them, then deciding whether they are justified to follow or not.
I think what you’re telling is not a “harsh reality” but a fabrication that neurotypical people tell themselves to justify “following orders”. Fuck that shit.
If I did what you said me to, I’d be in a much worse mental headspace now. I feel sorry for your son. You blindly following social norms IS the problem. Try to address that instead. Try to actually understand why your son finds it difficult. Most of us find it difficult because the authority is not justified: there’s no explanation, not even an imperfect one. We’re instead told to just suck it up instead of hearing, “hey, yeah, you got a point.” or even just engaging the discussion. Let it be the other way around. You go try to think if there’s something that you both could agree as justified for a rule. If such a thing isn’t there, then no need for the rule. Good authority doesn’t flow from “because I say so”, but from clear and justifiable rules.
I’m not going to mask myself because others refuse to take others into account. I have plenty of good interaction when I am not forced into masking, and less when I have to mask.
Let me ask you a question. Have you ever gone through what your son is going through with you now? Should a good parent not want to try to understand their child instead, rather than to force their own norms onto their descendant?