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Screenshot of a tweet by @feralhousepuppy: hey so you’ve been calling me “bro”, “man”, and “dude” a lot and it’s really invalidating to my masculinity cause those are all gender neutral things you call trans women :/
Screenshot of a tweet by @feralhousepuppy: hey so you’ve been calling me “bro”, “man”, and “dude” a lot and it’s really invalidating to my masculinity cause those are all gender neutral things you call trans women :/
I really wish inheritantly masculine words weren’t always ending up the “gender neutral” defaults.
I can’t help but feel like ever since being out over the last 2 years, friends are calling me “man” or “dude” in a neutral sense way more often than they ever did before despite them being supportive and it just feels too me like petting a cat in the wrong direction. I know I need to be more vocal in it making me uncomfortable but I’ve always tried to avoid confrontation so it’s hard
I feel very similarly about those who use the word “gay” to refer to the entire Queer community.
It wasn’t until I started really participating in the queer community that I realized why the term dude bothered me, and then my eyes were fully opened to the patriarchy.
Ever since then I only use the word when arguing with cis white men.