Firstly, everything else aside, OOP’s guy sucks purely on the basis of him putting his hands on someone unbidden. That aside…
OOP seems to peg the guy as a chaser on the basis that he got more into it after learning she was trans, though maybe there’s more to it based on something that wasn’t mentioned. The prospect of a date doesn’t rule that out, because the prototypical chaser behaviour is a man who’ll string a trans woman along with a “relationship” that he never lets anyone else find out about.
I think you definitely shouldn’t let anyone “use” you in that way (not specific to chasers), but at the same time, if all you want is sex and all they want is sex and everyone is clear about that, then why not?
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Firstly, everything else aside, OOP’s guy sucks purely on the basis of him putting his hands on someone unbidden. That aside…
OOP seems to peg the guy as a chaser on the basis that he got more into it after learning she was trans, though maybe there’s more to it based on something that wasn’t mentioned. The prospect of a date doesn’t rule that out, because the prototypical chaser behaviour is a man who’ll string a trans woman along with a “relationship” that he never lets anyone else find out about.
I think you definitely shouldn’t let anyone “use” you in that way (not specific to chasers), but at the same time, if all you want is sex and all they want is sex and everyone is clear about that, then why not?