Not saying I’d do this, but…I’m kinda easy :P
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Firstly, everything else aside, OOP’s guy sucks purely on the basis of him putting his hands on someone unbidden. That aside…
OOP seems to peg the guy as a chaser on the basis that he got more into it after learning she was trans, though maybe there’s more to it based on something that wasn’t mentioned. The prospect of a date doesn’t rule that out, because the prototypical chaser behaviour is a man who’ll string a trans woman along with a “relationship” that he never lets anyone else find out about.
I think you definitely shouldn’t let anyone “use” you in that way (not specific to chasers), but at the same time, if all you want is sex and all they want is sex and everyone is clear about that, then why not?
He was into her before he knew, so it’s probably fine
Chasing wise it’s “okay”, still straight up SA tho
Eh, I feel like this probably occurred in the sort of place where you implicitly consent to touching subject to body language. The initial grinding would be considered an “unless told not to” type of thing, and then when OOP “went with it” that was consent for a little more and so on. Verbal consent is the gold standard, sure, but some people like to read and be read between the lines. After all, OP and OOP both seem fine with the situation.
Isn’t the only question if he would introduce her to his family since she is already easily passing?
Even assuming sarcasm, I struggle with this comment.
I don’t understand why you’re confused. The guy OOP was with was into her before he knew she was trans, meaning he doesn’t exclusively go for trans gals, meaning he probably sees her as a person more than a minority group he thinks is hot which is the definition of a chaser
There is always the non-zero probability of TIRM, though.
That happened to me, ended differently.
And no I didn’t consent to be touched, fuck them and people harassing. Probably will not go clubbing again unless I’m in a safe group.
Fuck…I’m so sorry to hear that 🫂
That’s neither funny nor okay to do, to anyone for any reason. Fuck those people
I hope you’re doing better…🩵And that’s why I do t go to clubs.
I’m horrible at reading body language directed at me, so I either end up doing something inappropriate because I misread the situation, or, the much more likely scenario is, I end up doing nothing when I was given the (not so) clear signal…
I wonder why the fuck we cannot just talk, we ain’t birds who have to make signals
Most of the clubs I’ve been to I can’t even hear myself think, let alone have a conversation.
Because people aren’t comfortable talking. And it does make it awkward when e.g. you’re dancing with someone. “hey can I touch your waist” etc.
In the story, the guy isn’t looking for an “experience with a trans”, but accepts that a trans woman is a woman. He doesn’t reject her after his physical satisfaction. And him and the narator seem to agree on the start of the relationship… Why would it be wrong?
I’m confused, this doesn’t seem like chaser behavior at all
How solid of a BJ was that, where you get so tired you fall asleep immediately after?
Punnily, it must have been pretty hard.
Must have been pretty enthusiastic. Sometimes you’re doing your best and you just forget to breathe 😆
I think I could see that happening…
Help me out, what are chasers?
People who fetishize a minority group to the extent that they don’t care about the person as much as they care that the person belongs to the minority group.
Ahh that makes sense, thank you! Didn’t realize there was a word that described my experience on online dating as a BIPoC person.
Obviously what you drink after the sex.
Damn I’ve been doing it wrong this whole time then?! Here I’ve been peeing instead
Wait wait wait, don’t drink the pee!
But the AI told me it’s okay (/s just in case)
I can’t wait until AI cultists start fighting each other to find out which is the true superintelligence.
The Pee Wars between them will be legendary.
Oh damn you’re getting me stoked for the sequel already, The Altman Files 🔥🧨
chas·er 1 (chā′sər)
n.
- One that chases or pursues another: a chaser of criminals.
- A drink, as of beer or water, taken after hard liquor.
chas·er 2 (chā′sər)
n.
- One who decorates metal by engraving or embossing.
- A steel tool for cutting or finishing screw threads.
Blahaj almost has its own language if, like me, you just visit here. The locals always know what each other mean though.
It seems to me that the first definition from the dictionary fits
I’m not this easy until it’s after midnight, I’ve had multiple drinks, and nobody else has shown any interest in me T.T
Really? I feel like I’m this easy all the time, lol
chasers
I guess I’m a chaser too then
no
Well, I do disproportionately approach trans women. That IRL girl I told you about found it weird until I explained my motives. Yes, it takes meeting a mahō shōjo for me to overcome my shyness but I don’t go further than normal men meeting cis women and I’m clear about consent, so I think it’s not creepy. This does mean I’m putting (some) women on a pedestal but that can be deat with as I try to unlearn patriarchy…
You’re good 👍
Don’t worry at all 🩷
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