transcription: just saw a straight woman CONFIDENTLY say lesbian marriage isnt a real marriage its just “two best friends who get each other off” and like bestie, idk what has gone wrong in your life but thats exactly what marriage is supposed to be, regardless of the genders involved. as opposed to real marriage, where you have two people who dislike each other and dont get each other off.
Well there’s also romantic attraction. I know some aros who would love to fuck their best friend without any romance, but alloromantics tend to dislike that because they go and fall in love. Romantic love.
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Honestly, kinda the most wholesome way of describing the perfect aromantic relationship. I’m ace and deeply romantic, so it can feel hard to relate to what you describe. But I can respect it.
Sounds like what you might want is polyamory
I myself relate to what you’re saying a lot, with the exception of also wanting/having romantic feelings. I just don’t vibe with all that’s involved with monogamy
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There are many flavors of poly, you sound like you fall into relationship anarchism/solo poly, which is pretty much what I practice, as that’s what appeals the most to me.
I don’t want to have a say in what my partner(s) can or cannot do, it doesn’t feel right to me. I want them to spend time with me because that’s what they want to do, and it’s not appealing to me to essentially make decisions for them. I don’t want to make rules and essentially establish any form for power or control over my partner(s). Maybe it comes naturally to me as I’m already an anarchist politically, I dunno, but either way
It’s about finding the right people that suit you, really, I think
Also aces who go falling in love without wanting sex.