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      “you are insufferable for asking why”

      “you need to mask, to adapt”

      😬

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        Right lol poor kid. “Don’t question anything, just mask and shut up so nobody thinks you’re insufferable.” Lowkey sounds like what the parent went through and views as the ‘normal’ way of dealing with being ND.

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        Aren’t you the guy who thinks some invisible, male entity created the entire universe? Did this male and masculine entity create evil and is he now powerless to stop it? Or is it that this invisible penis having guy actually enjoys the suffering and tortures souls for eternity?

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          God has no sex as he is, LITERALLY God, omnipotent, omniscient creator

          and he didnt create evil, he created free will

          and if he was to destroy all evil, why do you think he wouldnt start with us?

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            That’s weird. The Bible is pretty specific about god’s gender. God created everything but not evil? So god didn’t actually create everything then? Or is he just powerless to stop it?

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              If he destroyed all evil, why do you think he wouldnt start with us?

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                That’s not the point. HE, as you refer to HIM as, can either be powerful enough to destroy all evil or is not good so does not stop evil from happening. Whether eradicating evil destroys you or not is irrelevant. Your existence contradicts your teachings.

                So your penis having God, that used his penis to impregnate a virgin and cuck her fiance, is either not all powerful or not all good. Which is it?

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                  why is your mind imprisoned in the physical?

                  the Virgin Mary was impregnated via a miracle, and remained sinless

                  he is all powerful and all good, he just CHOOSES not to destroy us and took the punishment for us because he loves us

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                    So you can’t explain any of the contradictions and your cult is a scam. Got it! This is the point in the conversation where you’ve realized that your belief system is a lie but since you’ve been forced to believe from a young age you just keep saying non sequiturs so you don’t have to admit that god might not be real. I promise that if you can let reality in you will feel a lot better. When you realize there’s not some invisible scumbag reading all your thoughts and constantly judging you for them, you’ll be able to love yourself and others. You’ll realize that religion actually makes it harder to be good.

                    the physical

                    What else is there? Be prepared with actual evidence. Vibes don’t count and “muh faith” is a cop out fyi.

                    he is an powerful and all good

                    You just keep saying over and over again that an all powerful and all good being created evil and allows it to exist. Such a being could instantly remove all evil without destroying anything. If a being with this power does not do that then they are not good. If they are good but cannot remove evil then they are not all powerful. You can’t have both no matter how many times you say something that completely contradicts itself.

                    he loves us

                    Loves us enough to torture us for eternity if we happened to not believe some crap that makes absolutely no sense, contradicts itself constantly, and was written by 2000 - 60000 year old men who thought that the sun goes around the earth and disease was caused by being smote for bad deeds due to ignorance about reality. Not their fault but still. Strange how religion continues to get smaller the more truth we learn about reality. Mount Olympus used to house gods until someone climbed it. Yahweh was the god of the sky until we invented the telescope. They just keep getting less and less powerful.

                    E: formatting

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      Questioning social norms doesn’t necessarily makes you an asshole, it depends on how it is approached.

      By not defying them we will remain stagnant, imagine the downhill slope we would end up on if no one ever questioned why a man shouldn’t love another man or a woman shouldn’t love another woman.

      People shut you down because many are intolerant to change and have their values under scrutiny is seen as hostile, but that doesn’t imply compliance is productive. Of course, you don’t want to this all the time, but teaching your kid to repress their displease of social norms doesn’t sound good either.

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      because if you want to succeed let alone survive in life the attitude needs to change or it needs to hide.

      Framing things this way is a big mistake and I don’t see why it isn’t more obvious to people that it’s a mistake. You want someone you care about to believe that there is a binary choice between a sustainable existence and resolving their emotional needs? You couldn’t make a more persuasive argument for suicidal thinking and self destructive behavior if you tried. And it isn’t even true because they are mutually dependent priorities. It took me too many years and therapy to figure this out, you should really consider approaching the issue from a different angle than this one.

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        Thank you. I’m glad some people realise that telling autistic people to adapt or die is an awful inhumane thing to do.

        Because for people like me, that is what you are asking us to do.

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      social norms have reasons as well. you cant just say “because social norms exist” and expect someone to accept that answer as a reason. its basically the same as saying “because everyone says so”. so why dont you explain why the particular social norm is one in the first place. if you dont know maybe you need to find out before you try to enforce it on others.

      also as an autistic person you shouldn’t be encouraging people to mask. that shit is incredibly damaging to people. i masked for most of my life and what people dont see is that i was basically just surviving that whole time. i developed an incredible amount of anxiety, to the point where i couldnt really function in society for more than a few hours at a time before i had to isolate for a day or two to recover. i wore the mask so often for so long i didnt even know who i really was anymore. i didnt start to live until a few years ago when i started making a concerted effort to take off the mask and be myself. and you know what, people fucking accepted me way more than they ever did when i was being fucking fake all the time for the sake of appearances. you might mean well telling your son and all the autists who will see your comment to mask to get by, but all youre doing is fucking hurting them and you need to stop. masking isnt for us, its for you.

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      “If you don’t learn to adopt them you will isolate yourself” might be true if there was 1 neurodivergent person. We are a community and personally I’m not interested in being more than acquaintances if I have to mask around you all the time. That’s not a mutually beneficial relationship.

      Autistics are constantly told this lie and it completely ignores the fact that there’s plenty of other autistics that will understand and accommodate each other’s needs.

      This is an ableist way to see the world and my lived experience directly contradicts it.

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        That’s awesome. Sadly, it does’t apply to their kids PTA, their neighbors or their Jobs.

        There is some level of faking and coping that greases the wheels and lets you not have to swim through the raw sewage of every other ‘normies’ ignorance.

        Don’t fold in and just give on every thing, but don’t die on that fucking hill either.

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      Perfectly reasonable but let’s also recognize that some social norms exist only because of tradition, and are unnecessary & uncomfortable, these social norms need to be questioned & challenged & done away with. When enough people question them and challenge them, and eventually get rid of some unnecessary oppressive social norms, we can continue to evolve as a species.

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        They’re still social norms because people are fine with them.

        Just because a group of people online are against things, doesn’t mean that everyone else isn’t fine with it.

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          The issue isn’t people choosing to behave a certain way, it’s the expectation that everyone need to behave that way. If people want to do the same as everyone else, fine. If the standards ultimately don’t matter, then who cares?

          In my experience, the people who hate me for not following them wouldn’t like me even if I tried to play along. I am often more respected when I confidently stand as myself than when I try to follow the rules as meekly as possible. If I’m gonna be freak either way, I’m better off keeping my head held high.

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            You’re free to act however you want to. Honestly, that’s fine with me.

            But the crux of this is, if you’re acting how you want, there’s a good chance that people don’t want to be around how you’re acting, and those people shouldn’t be chastised for not bending over backwards to cater to people who’re behaving in different ways.

            If you want on that ride, fine. But don’t cry about it when no one else wants to accept that kind of thing.

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              If people are actively excluding somebody for being themselves, especially in a workplace, that is a problem that needs addressed.

              It’s one thing if you’re being yourself and not being respectful at all, such as violating somebody’s space or taking up their time excessively, it’s another to silently shun somebody because they perceivably “went their whole lives being catered to”.

              That’s discrimination. You said it yourself, “But don’t cry about it when no one else wants to accept that kind of thing.”

              Not accepting is discrimination. You can communicate your needs, such as a need for focus or a reduction in non-work conversation, without being a dick.

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                Someone avoiding a person is not discrimination. People are not entitled to other peoples’ time or patience. That’s what I’m trying to say here.

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                  Avoiding is another level of discrimination. If you don’t like someone or you are uncomfortable talking to someone, then say so instead of contributing to the culture of discrimination that they face.

                  Communicate your needs instead of acting like you don’t owe people basic respect because they were perceivably catered to… because they are different.

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                    No it’s not. Lol.

                    Not every person deserves an answer for every action around them. I’m sorry, but that’s just not realistic.

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      As someone with that, I say, fuck off to that “authority”.

      Social norms are to be broken. We didn’t get Stonewall riots by following police and law and order. We didn’t get women’s rights by meekly letting men trample us. We didn’t get general suffrage by not rioting. We didn’t get the right to strike by doing nothing.

      I think the attitude you’re being held back by, is more destructive. You’re willfully following rules instead of questioning them, then deciding whether they are justified to follow or not.

      I think what you’re telling is not a “harsh reality” but a fabrication that neurotypical people tell themselves to justify “following orders”. Fuck that shit.

      If I did what you said me to, I’d be in a much worse mental headspace now. I feel sorry for your son. You blindly following social norms IS the problem. Try to address that instead. Try to actually understand why your son finds it difficult. Most of us find it difficult because the authority is not justified: there’s no explanation, not even an imperfect one. We’re instead told to just suck it up instead of hearing, “hey, yeah, you got a point.” or even just engaging the discussion. Let it be the other way around. You go try to think if there’s something that you both could agree as justified for a rule. If such a thing isn’t there, then no need for the rule. Good authority doesn’t flow from “because I say so”, but from clear and justifiable rules.

      I’m not going to mask myself because others refuse to take others into account. I have plenty of good interaction when I am not forced into masking, and less when I have to mask.

      Let me ask you a question. Have you ever gone through what your son is going through with you now? Should a good parent not want to try to understand their child instead, rather than to force their own norms onto their descendant?

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      You are always loved by God

      any love of man is incomparable to the love of God

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        Which one? I’m vetting them to see who has the better dental plan. There’s just so many to choose from, it’s tough to decide.

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        There are a lot of gods, so which one? Also, i never saw a god showing love to me, did i got left behind? Damn it

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          The one triune God

          and you being born, being alive, having food, having a machine to comment this are all examples of hs Love for you

          and he expressed the ultimate love to us on the Cross

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            You’re right. Brahma, the one true god, did all this for us.
            I didn’t know he got rhe romans to kill that imposter on the cross but you learn something new every day.

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              Hinduism is false as it commits multiple fallacies in itself, it is a mess of thousands of contradicting books with no unity.

              many modern hindus claim its a “philosophy/way of life not a religion”.

              Hinduism is also slowly dying, and the only reason it has a “billion people” is that the Indian government assumes that everyone is a Hindu at birth, and they made hinduism the “default” religion in their databases

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            he expressed the ultimate love to us on the Cross

            By masochistically sacrificing Himself, to Himself, to pay a price He chose to charge of His own free will, in order to cleanse us of the “taint” of actions He considers sins.

            For the sake of argument let’s assume what you believe happened happened and that your god is real. The problem with omnipotence is that you can’t blaim anyone else for the system you set up. The crucifixion didn’t need to happen to “free us from sin”, God wanted to incarnate into a mortal form and be tortured to death. Why? I cannot say, but He could have chosen some other way. He could choose to not threaten us with eternal torture simply for not loving Him. That isn’t love.

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              It is not God who rejects us, it is us that reject God

              and the concept of hell is basically a place without God

              you didnt want God your entire life, so yeah, you wont be with God, you have free will

              but ohhh you want the privileges that come with creation and God himself but not put in any spiritual effort yourself?

              God is a fair judge, and he cant just let people off UNLESS someone else takes the punishment

              Jesus took the punishment

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                God is a fair judge, and he cant just let people off UNLESS someone else takes the punishment

                Why not? Seriously. He set up the system. Why require punishment in that system? Jesus and God are the same person (hence “triune” ), so He essentially had us torture and kill Himself to appease His own vengeance.

                He could have forgiven us without preconditions. He chose to require punishment. Then He chose to be tortured and killed . Now He demands that we thank him for it or He’ll punish us for eternity. That’s psychopath behavior.

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                  because there are consequences for your actions?

                  and the trinity is comprised of three different persons and one God

                  We know very little about hell currently, and dantes inferno isnt canon

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                    Infinite consequences for finite actions? Seems disproportionate.

                    One all knowing God who decided to sacrifice Himself to Himself to pay a price He wanted to pay.

                    We know it is eternal and irrevocable, and it is meant as punishment. Punishing someone eternally is immoral. There’s no way around that. It doesn’t matter what they did.

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            you being born

            WAIT SO MY MOM HAD AN AFFAIR WITH GOD?!

            being alive

            No need to slap it again in my face TwT

            having food

            He never paid a dime duh

            having a machine to comment this

            I am sure that i have this phone because some chinese kid manufactured this, unless…THE KID IS GOD??
            This is a lot to process…

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              1. no, God ensured the circumstances for your birth

              2. He provided the food, without him, there would be no wheat for the bread you enjoy

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            Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1879 or Northern Conservative Baptist Great Lakes Region Council of 1912?

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              Martin Luther is a heretic

              The one universal church (the Catholic Church) is true

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                  Lol if you didn’t see their take on Hinduism, it’s even more hilariously unaware. Some of their points are the most common skepticisms of Christianity.

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        if “god” “loves” me then why does its book say it hates me (im queer)

        when have there ever been signs of a real god

        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zi8HT6Ux8FM (invidious: https://redirect.invidious.io/watch?v=zi8HT6Ux8FM )

        (long) transcript of that song:

        I have an apology to make. I’m afraid I’ve made a big mistake. I turned my face away from you, Lord.

        I was too blind to see the light. I was too weak to feel Your might. I closed my eyes; I couldn’t see the truth, Lord.

        But then like Saul on the Damascus road, you sent a messenger to me, and so …

        Now I’ve have had the truth revealed to me. Please forgive me all those things I said. I’ll no longer betray you, Lord. I will pray to you instead.

        And I will say Thank you, thank you, thank you God. Thank you, thank you, thank you God.

        Thank you God for fixing the cataracts of Sam’s mum.

        I had no idea but it’s suddenly so clear now. I feel such a cynic. How could I have been so dumb?

        Thank you for displaying how praying works: a particular prayer in a particular church. Thank you Sam for the chance to acknowledge this omnipotent opthamologist.

        Thank you God for fixing the cataracts of Sam’s mum. I didn’t realize that it was so simple, but you’ve shown a great example of just how it can be done.

        You only need to pray in a particular spot to a particular version of a particular god, and if you pull that off without a hitch, he will fix one eye of one middle-class white bitch.

        I know in the past my outlook has been limited. I couldn’t see examples of where life had been definitive. But I can admit it when the evidence is clear, as clear as Sam’s mum’s new cornea.

        That’s extremely clear! Extremely clear!

        Thank you God for fixing the cataracts of Sam’s mum. I have to admit that in the past I have been skeptical but Sam described this miracle and I am overcome!

        How fitting that the sighting of a sight-based intervention should open my eyes to this exciting new dimension. It’s like someone put an eye chart up in front of me and the top five letters say: I C G O D.

        Thank you, Sam, for showing how my point of view has been so flawed. I assumed there was no God at all but now I see that’s cynical. It’s simply that his interests aren’t particularly broad.

        He’s largely undiverted by the starving masses, or the inequality between the various classes. He gives you strictly limited passes, redeemable for surgery or two-for-one glasses.

        I feel so shocking for historically mocking you. Your interests are clearly confined to the ocular. I bet given the chance, you’d eschew the divine and start a little business selling contacts online.

        Fuck me Sam, what are the odds that of history’s endless parade of gods that the God you just happened to be taught to believe in is the actual one and he digs on healing, but not the AIDS-ridden African nations, nor the victims of the plague or the flood-addled Asians, but healthy, privately-insured Australians with common and curable corneal degeneration

        This story of Sam’s has but a single explanation: a surgical God who digs on magic explanations. No it couldn’t be mistaken attribution of causation, born of a coincidental temporal correlation, exacerbated by a general lack of education vis-a-vis physics in Sam’s parish congregation. And it couldn’t be that all these pious people are liars. It couldn’t be an artifact of confirmation bias, a product of groupthink, a mass delusion, an Emperor’s New Clothes-style fear of exclusion.

        No, it’s more likely to be an all-powerful magician than the misdiagnosis of the initial condition, or one of many cases of spontaneous remission, or a record-keeping glitch by the local physician.

        No, the only explanation for Sam’s mum’s seeing: they prayed to an all-knowing superbeing, to the omnipresent master of the universe, and he liked the sound of their muttered verse.

        So for a bit of a change from his usual stunt of being a sexist, racist, murderous cunt, he popped down to Dandenong and just like that, used his powers to heal the cataracts of Sam’s mum of Sam’s mum!

        Thank you God for fixing the cataracts of Sam’s mum! I didn’t realize that it was such a simple thing. I feel such a dingaling, what ignorant scum!

        Now I understand how prayer can work: a particular prayer in a particular church in a particular style with a particular stuff and a particular book for particular problems that aren’t particularly tough, and for particular people, preferably white, for particular senses, preferably sight, a particular prayer in a particular spot, to a particular version of a particular god.

        And if you get that right, He just might take a break from giving babies malaria and pop down to your local area to fix the cataracts of your mum!

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              On August 15, 1996, a discarded consecrated Host was placed in water according to standard protocol. Instead of dissolving, it developed reddish tissue and grew.

              • The Archbishop who ordered the investigation was Jorge Bergoglio — now Pope Francis
              • Dr. Ricardo Castañón Gómez, a former atheist, coordinated the scientific analysis
              • A tissue sample was sent to New York for blind testing
              • The primary examiner was Dr. Frederick Zugibe, a secular forensic pathologist and cardiologist at Columbia University
              • He was not told where the sample came from or what it had been

              The Witness

              Zugibe analyzed the tissue and identified it as human heart muscle — specifically from the myocardium of the left ventricle near the heart valves.

              • He found intact, active white blood cells — cells that typically disintegrate within 15 minutes outside a living body
              • Professor John Walker (University of Sydney) later confirmed intact white blood cells in the same tissue six years after the event
              • The blood type was AB, matching the Lanciano relic and the Shroud of Turin

              When Zugibe was finally told the sample came from a communion wafer that had been sitting in water for three years, he stated: “How and why a piece of a human heart is still alive, sitting in distilled water, is totally beyond my comprehension.”

              https://nacn-usa.org/wp-content/uploads/Zugibe-scanned-reports-26-3-05-and-15-3-05-RON-ack.pdf

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        I personally see the “love of God” people feel as actually being self love that they otherwise wouldn’t be able to give themselves. That love really is the most essential to living a full life.

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          I kinda feel bad about it because I think they were genuinely trying to be supportive. They’re far more supportive than the person telling ND people to shut up and mask.