• maria ~@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    6·
    3 hours ago

    hmmm in my mind rewards are like - overwhelming your subbie and really going ham on them and kissing them all over furiously and such, making them lose that feeling of needing to hide how nice they feel. but a punishment! >o< im honestly not sure what that would even be… iguess teasing. hurting them feels wrong…

      • maria ~@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        1·
        2 hours ago

        but that is terrible!!! ignoring them… no, nonono, I couldnt do that. Neglegance goes beyond punishment, that is just… cruel. in the sad way. in the lonely cold not-fun-al-all way.

        thats no fun. not for me, not for the subbie, no I don’t want that, thats just so very sad I couldnt bare neglecting… no, no that feels bad… imma stay with teasing

  • decolo@piefed.socialEnglish
    17·
    5 hours ago

    They should make a bdsm for anarchists who want a little erotic violence without the power hierarchy

  • AlterEgoTest@sopuli.xyzEnglish
    71·
    4 hours ago

    This reminds me some deep thinking i did on the topic of consent and morality.

    And concluded that actually, bear with me with this heck of a statement

    “Facism is not evil”

    Of course facism as humans have made it and historically expressed it is very much super evil with no doubt. Absolutely no doubt, i identify as antifa for a reason.

    But this is part of the larger philosophy that ”there is no objective good or evil in the universe”

    So what makes things subjective good or evil.

    Is it evil to organise a games of change fixed to have the house win majority of times? Not if the players are informed and consent to play (Consent also means the person is capable of controlling/understanding their actions, exploiting addiction is harm)

    Is it evil to have sex with someone? Not if there is consent and clear boundaries.

    Is it evil to humiliate and hurt someone? Not if there is consent and clear boundaries.

    How big of a step is it to go from bdsm master slave play to a fascist powerplay.

    I can even imagine a ethical functional economic organisation who runs on a fetishised version of Mussolini’s facism. But it cannot exist in the world we live now.

    If all the workers consent and want to work in these conditions, same with the partners. And they leave everyone else alone. There is effectively no harm and no evil. Such does require a world where there is total freedom of work meaning you are not incentivised in any way to work with organisations you are uncomfortable with.

    Disclaimer, i am not into any of these things. But i accept that people can have weird kinks. Everything is ok as long as it causes no harm.